Post # 1
Hey Bees 🙂
This is my first time actually posting. I’ve only commented and done polls up until now.
I’m a counselor and I’m planning on keeping my maiden name and also taking my fiance’s name so my name would be Rebecca Rubinstein Finson. My mother had brought up an interesting point that I can use Rebecca Finson personally/socially and Rebecca Rubinstein or Rebecca Rubinstein Finson professionally.
I’m probably just going to continue to go by Rebecca Rubinstein at work, even though my office and co-workers know I’m married and am taking my fiance’s name.
Have other bees gone by one name at work and another socially/personally?
I just feel confused by the whole thing!
Post # 3
I took my maiden name as my legal middle name, and use that on official documents, despite the fact that my legal surname is my husband’s name. Professionally, I haven’t gotten around to changing my name at work (it’s a huge process/headache).
I think as long as your employer doesn’t have an issue with your name choice, you should be fine.
(And FYI – if that’s your real name, you may want to consdier getting a mod to take it out and put in an example name!)
Post # 4
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I don’t think my employer would have a problem with my name, as I’d keep signing documents as I have been.
How do I ask a mod to edit my name out?
Post # 5
When I got married the first time I really didn’t want to take his name but I eventually kind of gave in. I kept my maiden name legally and used his socially. I’ll be honest, it was a huge pain in the ass! I kept forgetting which name I used where and what name people were used to me as being. My Facebook account has always been in my maiden name and I had friend requested a couple of people who only knew my married name and they didn’t know who I was at first.
My opinion is decide on one name and stick with it. It’s so much easier!
Post # 6
I also kept my full name and added my husband’s to it. I’m fine with using my full name professionally/formally and just his name informally. Many female colleagues of mine (who are role models for me in a number of ways) have gone about it the same way. I think it makes a big difference in how easy the adjustment is if you feel like you’re the only one doing it, versus if you can look to other women around you who have done it. Be confident! This is becoming more and more common all over.
Post # 7
I will change my last name.