Post # 1
We have exactly one MONTH before the challenge is over.
I have been fighting not to slip up and so far it is working—- how are you girls doing?
What things have you been doing to keep your mind off of it or to keep from talking to him about it?
Only 31 (30 as soon as midnight hits) days to go!
Post # 3
So far, so good. I’ve not mentioned anything regarding us getting engaged or married, not one single peep. Buuuuut, (and I’m sure some of you may be sick of hearing me whine about it, lol) SO’s bro’s wedding is on Feb 5th, and they live one state over, and we hafta talk travel plans, make work arrangements, etc to go on that lovely trip, so wedding talk isn’t ,unfortunately (or maybe fortunately?? heehee) something that we can completely avoid. So far so good, though. Don’t hold me to it come bro’s big day, I can’t promise I won’t get emotional.
How’s everyone else holding out?
Post # 4
I will think of you that day- I know how hard it will be to go through that and STILL wait for a proposal. *hugs* Just think of this board and us ladies waiting with you when it gets too tough—- and also, if he doesn’t do it before the wedding, after the wedding is game on for you!
Post # 5
I’m really struggling. Especially after watching back to back say yes to the dress episodes. From a spiritual perspective I know it’s just the enemy, but I just find myself getting really mad at him. I’m keeping my cool because what if he’s planning something; I don’t want to ruin it. 🙁
Post # 6
I haven’t said a thing about it, probably because my mind is on other things. I am still wondering about 2011 being our year, but I’m keeping my mouth shut.
Post # 7
I am doing pretty well! I kind of mentioned it last night though…but not to him so hopefully it doesn’t count. He was there though! His Dad said, “So when are you two getting married? I heard a rumour you might be getting married this year”. Ummm…
I said “Hopefully sooner rather than later…” oops!
Post # 8
YES..Im having a tough time keeping my mouth shut! Especially since my bday is 2 days before Vday. I JUST asked him..”What do you think about getting married on 12.12.12?” His response: “The world will be over by then.” and walked off. Well…what in the hell does that mean???!!
Post # 9
I was going to post that I’m doing well on the challenge and haven’t mentioned a word, but then SO saw I was on here. Whoops!
Anyway, I kept my mind off the topic by, well, just not thinking about it. I just got a new puppy so my focus has shifted. SO loves the puppy! Last night, we invited some of his friends over to my place to meet her and SO showed her off as if me, him and puppy were a little family and as if he lived here. (We don’t live together.) I was taken aback, I feel like HE is taking the R a little faster than expected. I guess the shoe is on the other foot. It’s nice I guess but a little weird. Last night he also professed again his love for me and that he will make me his wife, and that 2012 is still on.
I did the Vday challenge more for sanity’s sake but I feel like this challenge is totally working, for me AND my relationship. So Thank You, OP.
Post # 10
I am not really taking part in this challenge but I just wanted to say that I made SO Breakfast in bed yesterday (strawberry pancakes with bananas and whipped cream) and for the rest of the day he mentioned how much he wants to marry me;) The only reason I’m not taking part in the challenge is because I know that he wants to get engaged, but it doesn’t make sense for us financially right now. Maybe breakfast in bed might show your SO that you’re the woman of his dreams? hehe
That just cracked me up! LOL
Post # 11
@Miss Prerunner: Tell him it won’t be over until 12/21/12 🙂 You can have 9 days of marital bliss!
Post # 12
I completely failed today at the challenge! Ugh!
We went out for dinner and drinks and then walked into Borders like we always do to wait for one of us (typically me) to sober up before driving home. So we walk in the back entrance which is RIGHT by the wedding magazines. When I’m there alone (or when he is in another part of the store) I usually check to see if The Knot has put out their new seasonal magazine, and if they have, I buy it. As we walk in, I glance in that direction but decided to completely ignore it otherwise. Go me. We shop, pick out a few books, and then go to the check out line to pay. There was a bit of a line and what do you know… the table by the checkout line that they try and lure you with while you are waiting to pay has magazines, diet books, and WEDDING books. I saw the wedding books before he did but turned towards a random healthy eating book instead on the same table. He glances over and says, “Wow, I didn’t expect that”. I’m all “What?” He says, “Oh, nothing, I just wouldn’t have thought that would be the first book on that table you would look at.” Of course I know what he’s talking about and I just couldn’t help it. I grin at him and casually fake a reach towards a wedding book that had initially caught my eye. He rolls his eyes and I say, “Just kidding, I already have that one actually.” Which I don’t, so then I start laughing and say “just kidding” again. He then went to pay for his books separately and I figured he wasn’t looking so I grabbed the wedding book that I actually wanted and added it to my pile. I walk up to pay after him and tried to hide the book, but after I paid he took the bag from the cashier to carry it for me and he saw the book. He said, “I cannot believe you actually bought it!” S*** S*** S*** why did I do that? Lol. I continued to try and blow it off and told him it was so I could get ideas for my friend’s wedding (I am her maid of honor), but of course he knows the truth. *Sigh* Oh well. There goes my commitment to the challenge!
Post # 13
This is quite tough because there are a few times lately that we have gone in mini arguments and I wanted to bring up the subject.. but I kept biting my tongue.. Or if we were in a serious talk I wanted to chat or joke about it.. But I know for sure it’s not going to be January since he says its too busy/hectic for us and he will be going away for a little while on a course for work..
He said he wouldn’t mind us going away for a couple days in February maybe as a mini vacation.. So who knows.. It won’t happen on Valentines Day I know that since he doesn’t want to do it on a “typical” day (like V-Day, our anniversary, birthday etc..) Wants it to be totally random and his idea.. So just waiting.. It sucks that you try not to think about it but you do..
Post # 14
I have failed the challenge!! but definitely for a good reason 🙂 The boy and I went to look at a venue yesterday just to get some ideas and it was amazing! Its a modern, unique art museum nearby with art everywhere and we loved everything about it! Were looking at dates for early 2012.. and he mentioned the ring is at MOST a month away!! SO now back to being the excited little kid in the candy shop. Challenge ruined… but for the next few weeks I will need to keep my mouth shut and let him do his thing Good luck lady bees!
Post # 15
I kind of failed (again) but it was just because I wanted to not forget a really cool rehearsal dinner idea. I just said “IF we get married, blah blah blah” and he really loved the idea and made a hilarious joke. I laughed and then I changed the subject. Other than that, I’ve been really really good!
Post # 16
I know I “signed up” for this Challenge, but recent events and realizations (i.e. that giving him another 6 months isn’t going to accomplish anything that he can’t decide in 2) has kinda put me into a proactive “take charge of the situation” mode. So the V-Day Challenge is kind of out of the window for me. To be continued…