(Closed) V-Day Torture

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What's your view of Valentine's Day with your SO?

    I love it! I can't wait because my SO is AWESOME with surprises.

    It's cool. My guy is pretty good at remembering to be a little more snuggley with roses.

    Meh. It's nice if we do something, nice if we don't...doesn't matter much to us.

    Toss the day in a bag, burn it, and bury the ashes in the desert.

  • Post # 3
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @AzFlower:  Aww…I feel for you, I can see why you’re sad. πŸ™ But…………………………………………………………………… HE HAS THE RING!

    It sounds like you’re going to be engaged REALLY soon!

    Try to be patient and try to tell yourself that Valentine’s Day is a cliche holiday for a proposal. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    224 posts
    Helper bee

    Don’t stress about it.

    I actually think the fact that he already has the ring and hasn’t proposed already is adorable.

    It means he’s putting in a lot of thought about the proposal, and not just jumping in at first chance. It means he wants it to be perfect. I think that’s amazing.

    But the fact that he hasn’t proposed on Christmas or New Years makes me think it probably won’t be on V-day either. It sounds to me like he wants the proposal to be done at a time that the two of you can remember as ‘your day’ – not a holiday.

    Persoanlly (sorry if I offend) I’d hate a holiday proposal. So many friends get engaged at that time and er, hello?! I want that event to be about me! Not me and other people!

    Just chill out. You’ll ruin it otherwise. And all that hard work and effort he’ll have put in will have been lost. The proposal isn’t just about the girl – he’s getting engaged, too!

    Post # 5
    44 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @treacle may be right – he may be planning something stellar.

    But, he might not be…and that’s ok.  My Fiance kept telling me that we had to wait because he wanted to give me what every woman deserves, a great proposal, etc.  Well, when it came down to it, he had planned to propose on my birthday but, when he told one of our closest friends, she recommended that he do it on another day so I could still have my birthday as just my day.  So, he picked up the ring and then could not wait to do it.  He hated the idea of caring that much ring around in his pocket.  So….he just proposed. There was no fanfare, just “will you marry me?”  He told me later that he got all flustered by the fact that his first idea got vetoed and then he didn’t feel like he had time to come up with anything by the day he decided to do it.  Because he’d been setting me up to think I was going to get a grand proposal, I kind of struggled with the fact that there wasn’t one really.  I just don’t want you to get all excited thinking that his delay means the proposal is going to be fantastic.  Because, if you build it up like that, you may end up disappointed in how he does it. And, as hard as it was for me to wrap my head around, the important part is that he asks:)

    Post # 6
    44 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    double post…again

    Post # 8
    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Don’t be upset! As the above posters have noted, he has the ring!! That is extremely exciting! You should be happy! Just relax and it will happen in good time. Maybe not tonight, maybe not tomorrow, but you know that it must be soon. Just enjoy the day and remember why you want to spend the rest of your life with your guy. πŸ™‚ Some ladies have waited years and years, and are still waiting, with no ring in sight. So don’t sweat it girl! 

    Post # 9
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    He’ll probably propose at the family function, in front of everyone! You should go πŸ™‚ You never know…

    Post # 10
    224 posts
    Helper bee

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    @AzFlower:  glad to hear it!

    i just remember seeing a post on here about a girl who cried so much about not being proposed to, that her guy just did it there and then – and didn’t do the thing he was going to do.

    she warned everyone not to ruin their proposal by being impatient.

    marriage is for life – a few short weeks or months will mean nothing when you’re old and grey πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
    124 posts
    Blushing bee

    Totally agree with PPs, you should relax and know that he loves you and wants to suprise you with a romantic proposal.

    As @treacle says its his proposal too – you have to give him space to do it the way he wants.

    For the time being focus on your relationship, make time to do lovely things with him, (this may speed the proposal up) but more importantly it’ll take your mind off the proposal and it’ll make it more magical when it finally does happen.

    Good luck Smile

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