(Closed) Vacation / Honeymoon Conundrum

posted 9 years ago in Travel
  • poll: Should I go on the vacation or not?
    Go on the vacation : (5 votes)
    45 %
    Decline : (6 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    1573 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    how about save save save like mad? it’s pbviously very important to your future Mother-In-Law and you may not have another chance for such a special occasion and you may regret it and destroy future relations

    cut down on budget for the wedding–limit the guest list, there are many ways; kep the honeymoon find deals; it is still doable! accept the offer she gives you and pay for half

    Post # 4
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    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I say don’t go.  I think all of your reasons are totally acceptable and valid and there is definitely a way to beg off without offending your Future Mother-In-Law.  If it were me, I would let her know that while you would LOVE to go on the cruise and you were really looking forward to it, your boss won’t give you off that much time so close together.  Just tell her that you were really looking forward to it, but you just can’t convince your work to do it.  If she complains that you should take a shorter honeymoon, just make up an excuse like you already have the flights booked or cruise reservations made.

    Honestly, I think after you graciously back out, let you Fi deal with any more of her complaints.  Especially since you are the only one working, he should stick up for you to his mom and let her know that your job stability has to come first since it’s your only source of income.  Good luck!

    Post # 5
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I agree with your decisions not to go.  It’s very generous of her to help you pay for it, but you will be completely distracted and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you saving up your time and money for the trip with your new husband.  I’ve blown off my family many times over the last year for that reason.

    Post # 6
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    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think you should go on the vacation! It sounds like the wedding is stressing you out a little bit, and there is nothing better (in my opinion) than just taking a break, getting some air and relaxing, and then coming back to the table more excited for your wedding than ever! Companies give you vacation days for a reason, and you may not get this type of opportunity to spend time with the future parents-in-law again for a long time, if ever!

    Even though you have a poll going, your post sounds like you have already made up your mind. Just remember, do what is right for YOU but at the same time, don’t let the wedding rule your life, try to have some fun when the opportunity arises!

    Post # 7
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    426 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I would decline as well.  I agree with all your reasons.  Im sure they would understand…

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