Post # 1
At first my fiance and I thought about doing a honeymoon registry (to Bora Bora). But it’s just doesn’t sit right with me for us to ask people for money so we can have a vacation. I know it’s our wedding and technically people bring gifts but “asking” for monetary gifts is just tacky to me and that’s something I’m not going to do. When people bring gifts to wedding, it’s a symbol of them wishing us best in our new life together in our new home so the gifts are for that reason, for us to start our new home.
Come the 21st century and people got real creative and sometimes even greedy and started asking for anything and everything. I just don’t want to do this, esp when everyone is traveling for our weddding.
People keep asking us about a registry, but since we live together, we pretty much ahve everything we need in our home. So than I thought, well how about we pay for our vacation but do a registry for excursions only in replacement of gifts for our home. But than I don’t know if that’s the same thing as I mentioned above. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
There are a lot of posts on this already.. different bees have different opinions. We are having both kinds of registries so we can hopefully have *some* help for our honeymoon, but if people are uncomfortable with that, they can give us china instead. 🙂
Post # 4
Okay, me personally, I’m like you–I don’t like to give cash or gift certificates in any form–honeyfund etc. So I would appreciate a small registry of items that I could provide in addition to your vacation fund.
You can also register at places that would compliment your vacation–for example, if you want to backpack, register at REI. You can register at Amazon for all sorts of travel stuff: books, new luggage, travel accessories, language translators etc. etc. Or, since you already live together, you could also consider registering at Home Depot for home upgrades.
Post # 6
Personally, I HATE honeymoon registries (for both the whole trip or for extras/excursions) and would never purchase from them. Either way , it is basically just asking for cash to pay for your vacation and that doesn’t sit well with me so I won’t support it. I also never give cash as gifts as it is just very impersonal to me.
Obviously, there are some people who are totally okay with it. I think if you do want to do the honeymoon registry, you should also put together a traditional registry. Just because you’ve lived together for a while doesn’t mean there aren’t things that could use an upgrade or that there aren’t some more “fun” items you just haven’t bought for yourselves. Or you can add some more “non-traditional” things to a traditional registry. DH and I registered for board games, yard games, sleeping bags, etc and people LOVED buying these more “fun” type items for us.
Post # 7
To me, excursion registry is basically the same as honeymoon registry, which is the same as any gift card gift also. At the end of the day, its a usable form of cash from someone else for you to spend. The only thing I don’t like about it is that its less personable as a tangible gift. But would I appreciate cash or cash toward something any less? No, I’d probably welcome it, especially if you really don’t need anything else for the house. I would also think a guest or family would rather give a gift of cash (or equivalant) that you can really use, than to just buy a tangible gift for the sake getting one that you dont really need and wont use.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone and agreed to all so far!! Honeymoon resgistries are so tacky in “my” eyes, and I guess excursions are on the same boat! Damn, cause we would love to have a lot more of excursions!! LOL..j/k.
I was also thinking since everyone will be traveling for our wedding, I want to just say, “your presence is the best gift for us!” But I think people will still want to give something, and no resgitry means gifts that we may not want or need.
Post # 9
I’d warn against having no registry because you’re going to end up with a lot of crap you don’t want (and may not be able to return). If you really absolutely want NO gifts, set up a charity registry.. that way people will see you would prefer they give money away in your honor and really not buy you anything. There are other Bees on here that have chosen to not set up registries as a way to “hint” to their guests to give them cash, so people will not know how to interpret a lack of registry unless you make it clear.. “Your presence at our wedding is gift enough, so please, no gifts. If you truly want to give us something, please consider contributing to xyz charity in our name”.
Post # 10
I admit, the 1st time I went to a wedding with a honeymoon registry I was a little surprised and unsure. However, as I’ve been to more weddings I absolutely LOVE the idea! I used Honeymoon Wishes and I received great gifts and LOVED being able to have an amazing honeymoon that we couldn’t afford!
While the honeymoon registry isn’t traditional, it wasn’t long ago that living together wasn’t accepted! Lol! I think using the honeymoon registry AND a Macy’s or other traditional registry is the way to go. Let the people that need to buy you a blender do so.
People that are traveling to be at your wedding probably enjoy travel, are excited to be a part of your celebration and would like to make your travel as special as possible. Since they are traveling, they would probably appreciate not having to deal with bringing a physical gift.
I used the honeymoon registry and people loved it! We sent “Thank You” pictures enjoying our excursion and our guests really loved being a part of making our dreams come true.