Post # 1
My best gal pal just invited my husband, my daughter and i on a week vacation with her, her 3 kids and her parents to florida. they have an extra room available and we would only have to pay for our own food. my husband just landed a new job and wont be able to go. i would still like to take my daughter and enjoy ourselves. am i wrong for wanting to go without him? we have been married just under 3 years and havent been apart for more than a weekend. but a chance like this almost never comes along. he thinks if i have extra money that i should help him with his share of the bills. but i dont think it would be much different than staying home and buying groceries for the week. what do you think? help!
Post # 3
Why would it be wrong for you to go without your husband? It’s healthy. You’re still an independent human being. Go enjoy yourself!
Post # 4
I don’t think it would be wrong at all for you to go on the trip – it is a great opportunity for you and your daughter. I would think your husband would be cool with it. Except this thing about the money…what? Seems like you need to have a discussion with him. He says if you have the extra money for the trip you should be helping him with his share of the bills? Do you make more than him? (Sorry for asking – and don’t feel like you need to answer – kind of rude of me to even ask, but I am wondering what is behind his comment to you…) Make sure there is not some resentment going on. If all you’re paying for on the trip is food, that should not have to be a huge chunk of money. If you are financially secure enough to go on the trip, there seems to me to be no reason why you shouldn’t…
Post # 5
@GreenGables: there is some financial strain in our relationship mainly because he works full time and im a stay at home mom. we share the household bills (i receive child support) but he has been struggling with his share lately. i help him out when i can, but he of course thinks i should help more.
paying for meals for myself and my 6 year old for a week wouldnt be much different than buying a weeks worth of groceries right??
Post # 6
It sounds like a wonderful opportunity and you will probably not be able to go on this vacation as inexpensive again, however, if you are in a financial strain at the time and that money would and could be used other areas, it may be a better idea to stay at home until you can financially manage it.
Post # 7
im not saying its the most reasonable thing to do right now (financially) but how often does someone get a chance like this? it would be a nice mother/daughter time as well as some much needed girl time! since i am a stay at home mom, i dont get out much. i think my hubby should encourage me to go even though he cant. i know hes not happy about the money situation, but i wish he could be happy for me. its not like its an adult only trip, 4 kids under age 7….
maybe hes just feeling a little overwhelmed right now. he just started a diet and got a new job… if i leave for a week, he might be lost without me!
Post # 9
I think that sounds great. Take advantage of the opportunity to take your daughter on an awesome vacation for a good price!