Post # 1
I posted under “emotional” becuase I wasn’t sure where else to post and I feel emotionally conflicted, haha.
So my sister got married in May 2012 and I got married in Oct 2012. She was at my house this weekend and the subject of our dresses came up. We both still have our dresses hanging in closets. I have been planning to donate mine to Brides Against Breast Cancer, but I haven’t gotten around to getting a big enough box to mail it in. And, if I’m honest, I am struggling with giving away the dress. I have struggled with dress regret since I got the dress, and still sometimes feel that way looking at pictures from the wedding day. BUT when I look at the dress and remember my wedding day, I feel extremely nostalgic. It was such a special day and on that day I felt beautiful and didn’t feel dress regret once.
Back to my sister – she suggested we do another photo shoot in our dresses together this year before I give mine away. Sort of a Rock The Dress type of shoot (no trashing it!) Maybe we’ll include the husbands, too. We didn’t discuss logistics. We just agreed it would be fun to get all dolled up again and do another photo shoot. But since we talked about it, I have been dealing with an emotional dillemma:
- I get to wear the dress again. I will never have another chance to wear a ballgown unless I’m in a period play/musicial.
- The dress is special to me.
- It would be fun to have some better pictures. We got good pictures but not the best.
- It would be fun to take pictures with my sister when we’re both in wedding dresses.
- This would be a chance to do my make-up better. I regret not wearing a more vibrant lipstick.
- This seems incredibly vain. *this is my biggest dillemma* (This is not meant to be a judgment on those who do after the wedding photo shoots. But for me to do it, I struggle feeling vain.)
- Do I update the dress to make myself like it more? Or leave it as it was on my wedding day?
- I chopped 8 inches of hair off since the wedding day. I look different. Does it matter that my hair would be different?
- Other than frame one or two, what does one do with all the pictures?
Please be kind in your thoughts/comments.
Post # 3
I think it sounds like a fun idea. Maybe to get past the thinking of it as being “vain”, you could think of it as a fun double date. It would be a fun experience and a nice way to remember the day. Just think of it as a date where you are going out and having a photo shoot. I don’t think that it is vain at all. It gives you a chance to dress up, have fun, spend time with your sister… and as a bonus get some pictures. If you view it that way then the change in dress or hair or anything else wouldn’t really matter either. Just do whatever you are comfortable with! Btw, I love Brides Against Breast Cancer. It is an amazing organization and there really isn’t anything else you would be able to do with your dress in the future. However, I wouldn’t give it away until you are positive that you will not regret it. It would be awful to donate the dress and the regret that as well.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think it sounds fun and you should do it!
Post # 5
I think it sounds like fun, not at all vain, just fun! My sister’s only 17 right now but if she gets married in a few years and my dress still fits I think we would both have lots of fun with something like that. Then you could make little albums for the two of you with the pictures.
Post # 6
@howtobeawife: I think it’s a cute idea, and a way to bond over wedding stuff with your sister (post-wedding). By all means, change your look, hair, make it however you want it to be, or see yourself as now. And you can put the pictures in a separate album, maybe make it like a scrapbook, and others can see it, if you want them to. I don’t see it as being vain, I see it as a way to be able to wear it one more time before you decide to do anything else with it.
Post # 7
You already have your wedding pictures, so I would use the money for something else (spa weekend with your sister?) and just send off the dress (great cause)!
Post # 8
Sorry, but personally I think it’s a little odd. I’d just do a sisterly or sibling photoshoot if you wanted to have fun pictures with her. The wedding dress just seems out of place when its not your wedding day or a planned bridal or trash/rock the dress shoot soon after. If you really want to wear the dresses again, I’d say get some shots with it, then definitely make use of the photographer to get some regular pictures not in the dress.
Post # 9
My sister and best friends are talking about doing this. All 4 of us (2 sets of sisters who happen to be best friends) have done photoshoots throughout the years, dressed up and casual, just with our own cameras and had fun with it. We love the idea of getting some photos of all of us in our wedding dresses. I don’t think it’s vain, I think it’s a fun way to spend time with your sister and make some more memories. You don’t have to get a professional photographer, check with the local college to find a photography student whose looking to build a portfolio.
Post # 10
I would definitely do it !! Sounds like a lot of fun and what a fun bonding experience. and Hello ????!!! another chance to wear your gown ?? SHYEAH !!! Vain ?? No way !! Go for it !
Post # 11
I say do it! I saw a thing on pinterest .. when the last of your friends gets married, everyone gets in their dresses and you do a photo shoot. I LOVE this idea 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t think it sounds vain, just a litle strange. I know if I suggested this in a couple years to my fiance, he’d look at me like I lost my mind! And personally I don’t know what I’d do with the pictures, since they’re not my wedding pictures… I think if you combined it with a vow renewal though, that’d be a good excuse to put your dress back on and get pictures taken
Post # 13
@eocenia: We are friends with so many photographers, that we’d probably get these done for free. Does that affect your previous decision on it? Now that money isn’t a factor and, just so you know, I’d still send the dress to BABC after the shoot.
If our husbands are in the photoshoot with us, does it make it less odd and more like a Rock the Dress?
Post # 14
@howtobeawife: I guess I could see it as a delayed ttd/rtd wedding shoot. But since it wasnt really planned as part of the wedding events, it’s just strange to bring it so long after the fact, espeically if your hair is very different or you changed the dress. I just feel like I’d look at these pictures and not really feeling any ‘wedding feelings’ so that’s just why it would feel pointless and strange to me. It would be a shoot with a wedding dress on, not a wedding shoot to me. If you think you’d enjoy the shoot and looking at the pics, you should go for it though!
Post # 15
@howtobeawife: It does. However, I can’t really see the point with it to be honest. Especially as you said that you’re not that crazy about the dress. That said, I’m more the type of person that stores my photos on the computer and forget about them. If you love to display photos in your home, I can see more of a reason to want to do it again. Especially if you don’t like your first photos.