Post # 62
My sister didn’t come to my wedding, and it was hurtful. She cited that she just payed a major medical bill and couldn’t afford the travel costs. Um, my wedding took place in the same state that she resided in. Granted, it would have been about an 8hr drive, but still. Ridiculous. The only reasons that I could think of that could excuse a sibling’s absence from a wedding is serious illness or if it’s a destination wedding (foreign country) and the bride and groom aren’t paying for it.
Post # 63
He’s not close to you so I guess I don’t see why it matters?
Post # 64
i think his excuse is totally valid. it’s unfortunate that he may not make it.
Post # 65
I can think of lots of reasons. I love my 4 siblings but my own life comes first and they know that (I expect them to feel the same way – and they do). Sometimes you just have other priorities and life gets in the way.
Post # 66
+1. I agree with this. Being family doesn’t automatically make you close or a priority.
Post # 67
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I was wondering same thing… But I don’t know, I wouldn’t miss something that would be a good opportunity for me so I wouldn’t miss a wedding , nor would I want someone to.
Post # 68
It depends on your family relationships. I’m not at all close to my brother, and I plan to live abroad for most of my life. So I probably won’t be at his wedding, unless it happens to fall when I’m home for a visit anyway. I don’t think he’d care in the slightest.That doesn’t make either of us bad people, and I’m saddened that other people would consider us heartless because we don’t have a close bond.
Also, to people saying “I can’t imagine a professor not rescheduling an exam”- in the UK, you get to resit an exam if you’re in hospital or maybe if a parent or sibling has died. Even if you were ill but not hospitalised, close relatives were in hospital or a grandparent died, you’d just get it take into consideration when grades were handed out, you wouldn’t get to reschedule. I actually LOLed at the idea of taking an exam at a diferent time because of a wedding- I can’t believe that in the US that’s not only considered a reasonable request, but that the professor would be considered unreasonable to refuse!
Post # 69
My brother almost wasn’t going to be able to attend my wedding. He was going to sign up for the Army once he turned 18. He had all HS credits and was going to graduate early. He would’ve been shipped off for boot camp. I was crushed. Turns out he was denied for medical reasons.
Honestly unless I’m dying or he can’t (due to deployment, etc.) I see no reason why he couldn’t make it.
Post # 70
@MsGinkgo: For me, a valid reason would be illness, a significant event he can’t miss (like the birth of his child) or not being able to afford it, especially a Destination Wedding. My co-worker isn’t going to her brother’s wedding because we’re in Australia and the wedding is in London, and she was expected to pay her own airfare and accommodation.
As much as it sucks, your brother’s reason sounds legit – it sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime kind of opportunity. And you’re right that as a 21 year old man, he probably doesn’t get the significance of him being there. Hopefully he can get involved in other pre- or post-wedding events?
Post # 71
I almost had to miss my sibling’s wedding because of Peace Corps. It ended up being workable but it was because I had a generous boss and parents that paid transportation costs. There are very valid reasons besides “dying/in hospital.”