Post # 17
Disgusting. The average engagement ring costs $3500-$4000. So does this mean the typical woman is “worth” only a few grand? And that the most value a woman can ever hope to have is maybe $30,000? And that her worth is based entirely on her husband’s salary? This DJ makes me sick. I would quit listening to that radio station.
Post # 18
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
That’s ridiculous, and I hope homeslice was indeed jk-ing.
Post # 19
I think the worth is in knowing your Fiance WANTED to spend that money to make that commitment. I am sure many of you will agree that Fiance could have given me a ring pop and I would still have said YES!
Post # 20
I think the DJ was probably kidding, but it’s still eyeroll-inducing.
Someone ought to point out that the kind of guy who thinks he can buy a girl’s affection with a shiny object (hello! We’re not parrots!) is clearly lacking something very important (either mentally or, um, anatomically.)
Post # 21
Wow! We aren’t doing the engagement ring thing at all, as I didn’t want one for various reasons (mostly ethical and financial). I’m quite confident that this hasn’t diminished my value as a human being (or girlfriend).
Post # 22
dj’s are so annoying and offensive sometimes. they just like to hear their own voices.
Post # 23
That is the most ridiculous question I’ve ever heard.
Big ring or not, it’s the love…all about the love! Hope diamond or plain band, it’s ALL good if the love is strong!
Post # 24
My response is a big, “h*** no.”
Love can’t be measured, and even if it could it definitely can never be measured by material objects. Look at Kobe’s wife, she gets a 8 carat purple rock after she gets cheated on. Pretty sure that wasn’t a symbol of her worth to him. Not cheating on her shows her her worth.
Post # 25
I was one of the 3 people that voted yes. Obviously the ring isn’t all that matters, but I do think spending a chunk of change on a ring is a huge commitment on the guy’s part. It’s not so much the dollar figure, but the amount of effort the guy puts into it. For some, this means finding the perfect diamond and going above and beyond to get the girl her dream ring.
Post # 26
I’m a little biased since the Fiance did a fabulous job with the ring! 😉
Post # 27
I think that’s aweful. It has nothing to do with the value of the girl. Just what the groom can afford.
Post # 28
Hmm, this poses and interesting position for me…as I was the one that put a “cap” on the ring purchase. We were just about to start our home search and since we were looking for an old colonial that we would immediately rip apart and rehab..I told him he needed to tone it down a little.
This discussion led us to sort of search together for a middle ground. After tirelessly searching for the nicest stone in a price point we were both comfortable with I wound up with a beautiful colorless 1 ct princess solitaire in a platinum setting. He still spent more than I wanted him to because of the quality of the stone, but it is a stunner when she’s all clean and shined up. Anyway, point of my rambling..I was the one that stopped him from buying a larger and more expensive ring because I had visions of a granite/stainless kitchen in the works (which I have now and LOOOOOOOOVE).
I guess since I scaled back the size/price of my ring…this means I don’t value myself as much as fiance values me…haha.
Post # 29
I think its important that the guy spends what he can afford… I don’t think the bigger the rock, the more he loves you or the more you’re “worth” to him.
Post # 30
That is bullshit, pure and simple. I think its ridiculous that some jerk on the radio would even let that come out of his mouth.
Post # 31
Definitely not. Personally, I wouldn’t want a huge ring because I ride public transportation every day and would be nervous if I had something worth that much on my hand! I think the DJ is an idiot. Nor do I agree with the size of the ring=how much he loves her. My SO and I agreed on a ring size prior to getting engaged because we already had shared finances and I didn’t want him to waste our money on something that was too big for my tastes.