Post # 47
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
That’s so ridiculous! My ring cost my fiance almost nothing (the diamonds are all heirlooms), but I have a friend whose Fiance spent $21,000 on her ring! Definitely does NOT mean her Fiance loves her more than mine, lol!
Post # 48
That Dj is a horrible product of our culture! I disagree entirely that the cost of the ring=the value of the girl! I also disagree with the notion that the size of the ring(the # of ctws)= the value of the girl (or man. Can’t men have pretty shiney rings too?)
I told my Fiance I didn’t want a ring that was expensive (read- over $1,000) OR over 1/2ctw AND that i wanted a non-traditional sapphire or blue diamond as the main stone. While he went over on the ctws (1ctw), he respected my wishes and found my ring on sale for a mere $500! Yeah! I think i would have been more upset at a larger or more expensive ring because I know he loves and values me, I don’t need a giant rock to prove that (plus, with my short and chubby fingers, anything bigger would just look Wrong.) Oh goodness…i wish I had awesome engagement ring pictures to share now! i just realized i never showed the hive my pretty!
Post # 49
Since I feel that any engagement ring given in love is priceless, then I think it means that yes, the girl is also priceless in her guy’s eyes.
Let’s turn the tables on this meanie DJ!
Post # 50
@vistagirl…come on over. I’m a lousy cook and could use some pointers!
Post # 51
- Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception
I’m sorry, but that is just ridiculous.
Post # 52
Oh that’s just gross. What about the gals who specifically request a small ring? Yucky DJ’s, that’s just not nice. Then again, we could be a whole bunch of wedding-crazy biddies 😉
Post # 53
Frankly, that is a classist AND sexist thing to say.
Post # 54
If the value of the ring = the value of me, then my bf would never be able to afford a ring for me even if he had all the money in the world.
(I think that the man on the radio was joking.)
Post # 55
I’m calling bs on this too. If this were true I apparently have a serious self-esteem issue because I told my guy if he spent more than our rent for one month on my ring I’d hurt him – IMO we have a million other far more important things to spend money on.
This kind of nonsense is part of why I avoid listening to the radio – give me a MP3 player any day.
Post # 56
Yeah, it’s a joke, but it probably also helps to reinforce the idea, for both girls and guys, that the engagement is some kind of transaction, and that the value of the ring will have some kind of bearing on how ‘worthy’ she is, or vice versa.
Post # 57
What an idiot DJ! When you hear stuff like that you just have to laugh. The sad part is some idiot men actually think this, but thankfully the real men out there realize how idiotically demeaning this is! Most women will generally agree to this as well since if the general public accepts it, it’s a higher chance their bf falls for it and they’ll get a better ring!
Take it from a gal that’s been divorced with a really nice engagement ring. A nice ring does NOT equal to how much a person loves you. In the end it just sat there in the back of my computer desk drawer. I eventually sold it back to the jeweler that sold it, I got a pretty good price for it, although I don’t know how much it was back then since I was not involved with the purchase.
I never, ever thought I’d want to marry again but here I am and this time, I am having a lovely, intimate wedding with the love of my life. We don’t even have rings! He didn’t propose in some big, romantic gesture. Instead we decided on marrying together since we’ve always wanted to have children. I knew I would be with him forever and he promised me forever even before we were even officially a couple.
I know it’s hard to not follow society’s expectations but love is what’s shared between you, not the bling you’re wearing.
According to that Dj, I would be cheaper than a 2-bit hoe That’s great because when fi comes home from a long day at work and yet still wants to cook dinner for me and makes pancakes in bed on Saturdays, I can just smile and laugh to myself. If I’m a cheap hoe, then I am the luckiest garden tool ever!
Post # 58
It simply can’t be, because my ring was an heirloom and obviously my Fiance didn’t pay a dime for it. What the hell would that say about me then?!
Oh, no, you can’t take that guy seriously.
Post # 59
oh goodness. sounds like he was just kidding, but who knows, maybe he has a gold digger SO, eh? I’m all about the bling but I would have taken nothing but a promise if that’s all my So would have had.