(Closed) Vasectomy……

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

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@RockStar33:  If you have insurance, they usually cover a percentage or all of it. So, we had a small co-pay, the rest was covered. It shouldn’t matter if he has kids or not. But, you will get asked a million questions before he is approved to have it. They ask things like, if your wife dies and you marry someone else, will you want kids, are you 100% sure you never want a child, if this, if that. Alot of questions. The same for my tubal. It is because they know it is hard to reverse, and need to make sure the person is set on no more/no kids.. So, be prepared, but it is normal practice. And, he is young enough where it won’t hurt him. My friends husband was in late 30’s and recovered fine. He had big swollen balls (tmi I know) for a few days, but was back to work with a week.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

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@RockStar33:  No insurance, it will be a few thousand dollars. Just to get you prepared. But, many insurances cover it. Because, they would rather pay a few thousand for a vasectomy, than pay for a few kids. Horrible sounding I know, but the truth.

 

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@RockStar33:  I worked for a doctor that did vasectomies and reversals.  The vas is pretty easy and usually an in-office procedure unless your guy is really squemish and wants to get general anesthesia.  Vasectomies are usually covered by insurance and if it isn’t you’re only looking at paying $500-1,000.

The reversal is always a hospital procedure and since 99% of insurances do not cover it you are looking at a minimum if $10,000.  Plus, there are no guarantees that the reversal will work.  We figured it worked about 50% of the time in our cases and the sooner you get the reversal the better; our doctor wouldn’t do reversals if they were more than 10 years after the vasectomy because he believed that the strophy was too great and the chances of success were to small to be worth doing the procedure.

In regards to age, he refused to do them on men in their 20s (unless they had a documented genetic disorder that they didn’t want to pass on to their kids.)  He did consider doing one on a guy who was 23 but only because they guy had 5 kids already and didn’t want anymore (his wife was pregnant again at the consult appointment.)  He had no problem with doing them on men in their 30s; didn’t matter whether the guy had kids or not at that point.

It’s better to treat a vasectomy as a permanent procedure.  If you aren’t sure then I would recommend getting an IUD or an implant for birth control instead.

 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think if he has thoroughly considered it and wants to go ahead, to support him. Certainly not something to rush into but it sounds like he will make an educated decision.

From a personal perspective, my uncle had his vasectomy reversed and then they had a baby quite quickly after, so concieving again is certainly possible. (I think what the others are saying about 50/50 sounds about right)

Post # 24
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Worker bee

It’s his decision. Don’t worry about it. He’ll decide what to do.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RockStar33:  I am 29 and my Fiance is 47. He already has two grown kids and I can’t picture a time now or in the future when I will want to have any of my own. That being said, whenever my Fiance brings up having a vasectomy, I say “eh, wait until I’m 35”. While I don’t PLAN on changing my mind and I don’t WANT to change my mind, even my fiancé acknowledges that it COULD happen. 

 

While the procedure can be reversed in some cases, the chances of conceiving decreases with each year that passes after having it done. My take on it is to at least wait until you’re window has closed. Even though you say now you do not now not ever want any kids, why close that door? I mean “just in case”, as minuscule as that case may be. 

 

however, if you DO leave that option on the table for the next few years, make sure you and your Fiance are on the same page on that tiny off chance that you DO change your mind! My Fiance wouldn’t choose kids at this point in his life, but he wants to be with me and says he will love our kids and be the best dad he can be if that’s what I decide. But dear God, I hope it doesn’t come to that! 😉

 

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@RockStar33:  we both considered it and my Fiance made an appointment for a consultation. We always talked about not wanting children. Before that appointment, we decided it was too permanent. While right now we confidently say we don’t want children, we still acknowledge the possibility that we might change our minds. so I went with an IUD that protects me for 5 years. With that being said, if you guys are sure about not wanting children (which it sounds like you both are), you shouldn’t doubt your decisions. My fsil had her tubes tied (I don’t know the medical terminology) and her and her husband have no regrets. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@RockStar33:  We went to a vasectomy clinic in Toronto, it was paid for by OHIP.  It took a few weeks to book it, 30 mins in the office to do the procedure, and then a few days of rest/ibuprofen to feel better.  My hubby was quite tender for a while but is totally fine now.  It took 2-3 weeks for him to feel “back to normal”.  It’s a much simpler procedure than a woman having a tubal ligation or something like Essure inserted.  I was *very* surprised at how easy it was to book, which was great.  A different clinic I called in Oakville had a 4 month wait!

Also….a PP said earlier that tubal ligations can cause heavier periods or go into early menopause….I don’t think this is accurate information.  A tubal ligation simply cuts the fallopian tubes, preventing an egg from reaching the uterus.  The ovaries remain intact, and so does their function (ie. hormonal release).  If heavy periods do happen, that would be coincidence and a result of perimenopause, not the tubal.  Now, if a woman had a hysterectomy with ovarectomy, then yes, early menopause would result.

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