Post # 1
For DS, I had planned on going the natural route all the way. I don’t trust meds and did not want that in my body or to affect my son.
However, thing did not go as planned: I had to be induced, and then when the contractions came in, I was able to manage them for 3 hours before begging for an epidural since things were moving along soooo slow and it hurt like hell… pitocin is the devil!
Anyway, I ended up with a c-section 47 hours after my water broke because labor wasn’t moving along and I was getting weak and there were signs of infection.
It was completely the opposite of what we had planned, but in the end, the c-section was a relief for me because I was getting so exhausted and anxious that things weren’t moving along. I just wanted the baby to be out of me and healthy. What got to me the most is the feeling that my body had failed me all the way.
In the future, I will have the choice of doing a VBAC or another c-section, and if/when we have another child, I will choose the second c-section. First, because I do not want to go through the same thing again – the waiting, the induction, the anxiety, the exhaustion… the risk that my body might fail again. I feel that having the planned surgery will help in dealing better with everything and recover faster than an unplanned one and even of natural birth. And on a more humorous note, but still true… I already have the scar on my belly, so why go ruin my lady parts on top of that; might as well just reopen the existing incision! 🙂
For those who had a c-section, what would you choose for the next one and why? I’m curious to read about your experiences and reasoning behind your choice.
Post # 3
@mommytobee: I already have the scar on my belly, so why go ruin my lady parts on top of that; might as well just reopen the existing incision! 🙂
YES! I feel the same way. I had a scheduled C-section because my son was breach. I was bummed about it and even tried an external version to move him, but no dice. Now, my doctor has already suggested a VBAC (I am not pregnant again yet). But I am kind of leaning towards the C-section. In my mind, there is no good way to get a person out of a person, so I would rather go the route I know (C-section) than the unknown of a vaginal birth. I found the c-section recovery not to be a big deal, and I know people with vaginal births whose recoveries and aftereffects/damage were much worse.
I feel like I know what that is like, what the recovery is like – and like you , since I already have the scar (although it is small and faint) why take the chance of also destroying my lady bits? There is a small part of me that wants to go through the whole labor/pushing a baby out experience, but I think that part might lose 🙂
Post # 4
I did not have a c-section with my own child but I did spend a number of years working in neonatal and have taken care of many babies who were born via unplanned c-sections. And I’ve heard a lot of mothers express those same emotions.
I just want to say that your body did not fail you. Your body carried a beautiful baby boy for 9 months, nourishing him, protecting him, comforting him all along the way. Just because the end didn’t turn out like you envisioned doesn’t mean that there was any failure… it just means that your baby began writing his own story early on!
I think your decision to do another c-section is perfectly reasonable! If I’m ever in your position, I may very well make the same choice!
Oh and congratulations, by the way, on your bundle of joy!
Post # 5
@mommytobee: Yes absolutely to the second c-section!
I delivered my daughter via a doctor-recommended, scheduled c-section because she was breech. I had been planning to deliver vaginally, but quite honestly, when I was told that wasn’t really an option, I was pretty relieved. The surgery went really well for me, and I have no regrets. I totally feel like I took the easy way out when it comes to child birth, but quite honestly, who would really WANT the pain? Haa…idk…I have a high tolerance for pain, but I have no problem never “experiencing” a vaginal birth.
Sooo…now that I’m pregnant again, ten years later, I was told I could choose another c-section or try for the natural birth. I’m going with the c-section.
Post # 6
@bunnylovesbear: its not so much the vaginal birth that scares me (I would plan for an Epi) but the damage that birth leaves behind! I don’t want to be forever different down there…..sex for us resumed as normal, my bladder was as normal, within weeks of delivery via a c-section. I would like that again 🙂
Post # 7
I had a csection and IF we plan on another, I’ll have another. I don’t want to try to risk anything. She was breech and had had a bowel movement inside, so that was enough to freak me out. 🙁
As far as the lady parts…I know it was wrong, but once Baby Bear was here, I was glad my lady parts were still the same.LMBO
Post # 8
@Sunchick19: Oh yes, I agree 100%. Like I said, I have a high tolerance for pay, but it’s just not something I feel like I need to experience. Ha. No need for stretching out my lady parts if I don’t have to! Ha!
Post # 9
I had an unplanned c-section with my first pregnancy and desperately want to have a VBAC for the next. While I’ve worked through all the feelings of my body having failed me, I still feel like I missed out on something. I just really want the experience of giving birth. And yes, I know what missed out on was a lot of pain and trauma to my lady parts, but I still want to experience the feeling of pushing a baby out of me.
Post # 10
@bunnylovesbear: I don’t need to experience it either!
Post # 11
Most physicians I know (including myself) say that VBAC stands for “Very Bad Alternative Choice.” If I ever have a c-section, it will always be a c-section. I have seen too many bad outcomes, which trumps any other reason for me.
Post # 12
I was born VBAC as was my younger brother. My older sister was an emergency c-section (cord was wrapped around her neck during labor and they were worried because each contraction was making it worse) with an OB/GYN that was on-call and not my Mom’s regular doctor–my Mom ended up using that doctor for her next 2 pregnancies because he was willing to try for VBACs. My brother and I were both born without any complications. May be different in different situations (i.e., why the first c-section was needed/how it was performed/danger in the next birth), but I can’t imagine not attempting to do a natural birth once if at all possible. Also, my Mom said that unequivocally the C-section recovery was harder for her than the vaginal births…time-wise and pain-wise.
Post # 13
My c-section recovery was a breeze. I’ve definitely heard stories of others that didn’t have such an easy time with theirs, but everything about it was fantastic. I didn’t even need to use my pain meds after a couple days. You get extra time in the hospital with the help of the nurses, too. Obviously, it’s a very personal decision for a woman to make, but a repeat c-section is definitely the choice for me!
Post # 14
I had an “emergency” cesarean with DS 7 years ago. I “__” emergency b/c, after looking at my medical records, had I been able to labor completely on my own without medication augmentation I should have been able to have DS just fine on my own.
This go round I am plannning a hbac! I did alot of research and chose to do so b/c statistically it’s the safer option short term & long term.
Short term: Cesarean poses more immediate risk than a vaginal deliver (even if a vbac) for a few different reasons. One, because a common risk of cesarean that is not a common risk of vaginal delivery is embolism. Infact, the highest independant risk factor of embolism IS cesarean & embolism is one of the leading causes of maternal death. Also, cesarean poses immediate risk for infection that a vaginal delivery just doesn’t pose, and it has a higher risk of hemmorhage. All of these are more likely risks than the primary risk of uterine rupture with vbac, which the most recent NIH study showed no maternal deaths attributed to.
Long term: Cesarean poses risks to future pregnancies and deliveries. I learned this when I got pregnant this time & found out that I had to have u/s SPECIFICALLY to look for Placenta Accreta (which is where the placenta embeds in the old scar). For me personally, this was really stressful until my 5mth u/s. Even 1 cesarean puts moms at risk for this and with each repeat cesarean the risk goes up. Now if diagnosed with Placenta Accreta momma immediate goes from a low/moderate risk pregnancy & birth to a very high risk where you HAVE to have a cesarean & it can easily end in hysterectomy. I know we want atleast 1 more child after this one so for use not opting to increase that risk was important.
Some really great sites I found for a vbac vs. cesarean, along with that NIH study, were:
Like I said, I was a good candidate for a vbac so I wanted to opt for the safest short term & long term option for us instead of opting for the other.
Post # 15
I had an emergency c-section back in Sept (the doctor induced me 5 days prior to my due date because he was worried the baby wasn’t getting enough nutrients- she was super small. Her heart rate plummeted almost as soon as they gave me the drugs to start labor so he said we’re not waiting for you to labor, this could take hours and baby needs to come out now). When I went in for a post partum checkup the doctor said next time I could either try for a vaginal birth or just schedule another c-section.
I am undecided. On the one hand, it would be nice to have a set date when the baby is coming (particularly since we’ll have our daughter we have to make arrangements for) and I loved, loved, loved how quick and easy it was (ok, I didn’t love it at the beginning, I was hysterical, but after I calmed down I was like, holy hell that was fast and easy).
On the other hand, it was super, super expensive (between the drugs, the extra day, the operation, etc we added another $10K easy to our hospital bill, 20% of which we are responsible for), I was super drugged up, and also, I am desperately curious as to what labor and delivery were like. I went through nine months of pregnancy without a single contraction (my body, although 39 weeks pregnant, was not ready to deliver. Left on my own I bet I would have been 41+ weeks). I know a lot of women would argue that missing out on that is nothing to cry about, but I want to know.
So, right now, I am leaning more towards a VBAC. But we’ll see if I even have another and how I feel then.