Post # 1
I have a good friend (who I’m inviting to my wedding)…who recently became vegan. She’s had this affliction been vegan for a few months, and told me recently that wherever she goes, she finds something to eat. She’s not one of those in-your-face obnoxious vegans; she’s doing it for health reasons more than anything. THAT being said…my wedding menu isn’t going to have a lot she can eat. It’s a year from now, though, and she could very well no longer be vegan.
I guess this is more a question for closer to the wedding, but what would you do? Make sure some of the food can be vegan-friendly? Don’t worry about it and let her figure it out?
Post # 3
I’m basically going to ask my caterer if they can prepare something special for the two vegans who will be attending our wedding. We also chose one passed appetizer that could be made vegan, besides the crudite (mini falafel cakes with veggies), and one of our two main entrees is vegetarian (butternut squash ravioli). If the caterer is unable to provide, I will bring in some outside food for them, but I don’t expect this to be an issue because my caterer is great at working around food issues and we’re also going to have at least three people with serious gluten allergies.
I will make sure all my guests have something to eat, but I would not change even one of my entrees to be all vegan in order to accomodate one or two people. (Our menu is full of red meat, butter and cheese, mmmm!) It’s more common that you inform your caterer ahead of time that you have guests with special needs and they will earmark special meals, just like on an airplane. Check with your caterer.
Post # 4
If its just one person, your caterer can probably make her a special vegan meal. I wouldn’t change my meal for one person.
Post # 5
[Post moderated for name calling/personal attack] Sorry her health/morals/whatever matter more to her then your wedding. Any caterer worth their weight in salt should be able to cater a special meal. You may end up surprisEd how many of your guest have “afflictions” like deadly allergies or religious food choices (Kosher, etc).
Post # 6
Yeah, we have guests with different food issues too (everything from vegetarian to vegan to gluten-free) and the caterer is just making special meals for these folks. The nice thing is they can still pick and choose from the buffet in addition to their special meal. It’s nice of you to have a vegan app but beyond that, I wouldn’t change anything about your main meal for everyone else.
Post # 7
Yeah, I would talk to your caterer. One of my closest friends is vegetarian and the caterer was great about it: they just made her a vegetarian meal, I just let them know which one she was so they could serve it to her. We did carving tables, salads, and mashed potatoes, and the caterer said it was fine for her to eat anything off the regular buffet as well.
Post # 8
My caterer was able to do a couple of vegan meals for my friends. It also turns out it is the same meal prepared for guests that need gluten free meals. It’s some kind of gluten free pasta and a marinara sauce. We are having a fruit and veggie plate in addition to other non vegan friendly dishes for cocktail hour.
Talk to your caterer. Nowadays, it seems like everyone has some sort of dietary restriction (not counting those with medical issues for avoiding certain foods). Any good caterer won’t bat an eye at making a couple of special request meals.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Caterers can accommodate special meals without any problem- ours is working around gluten and other allergies- you don’t want one of your guests to go hungry.
I get from your post that you don’t support your friend’s decision- it sounds like she’s very respectful in how she brings it up to other people, so hopefully you can be respectful of her, too. 🙂
Post # 10
I am vegetarian and my Darling Husband is vegan and we have never had a problem at any wedding we have been to. Caterers are used to requests like this and will whip up a meal suitable for any guest with dietary restrictions and if they wont then they are not much of a caterer. But please don’t leave your friend to fend fo herself. If you do that I am pretty sure she will be starving and not have an enjoyable time!
Post # 11
@Absolute: Ummm, I think it was a joke. Lighten up! She obviously cares for this friend if she wants to make sure she can find something to eat!
Post # 12
I would make sure there are vegetarian options, and that at least 1 of them is vegan–it doesn’t have to be anything crazy that no one else will eat–a great salad with a oil based dressing will do
As a pescatarian (former vegan) I have been to weddings where I couldn’t eat anything at all, and that was annoying. They only served BBQ chicken and pork and bread rolls. It’s pretty inconsiderate to serve ONLY meat and not indicate on the invitation so people can a least bring a granola bar or something!
Post # 13
@Absolute: I’m not being a bitch, thankyouverymuch. Vegans can be super obnoxious; she is not. Try having a sense of humor before accusing people of being bitches. Thanks.
Post # 14
@sylvia.riggle: That’s what I’m trying to avoid! She is super easy-going, but to the point where she won’t speak up…so I want to make sure everything is cool. Because, to make the point again, I’m not a bitch. =) I know my caterer will be able to make something just for her (and maybe her boyfriend, I think they’re veganing it up together), but I wanted to see what others thought about it. Maybe I’ll ask my caterer to include a few vegan appetizers. My friend and I recently had these awesome fried green beans at a restaurant in Philly…yum. They do amazing things with tofu nowadays.
Post # 15
@peachacid: I was vegan for 3 years, and like your friend was not in your face vegan. Your friend and I may have different personalities/outlooks, but I never wanted special treatment, I found it embarrassing. Veganism is a choice, and most vegans are aware that not having much to eat at social gatherings comes with the territory of a radical lifestyle. Let your friend figure it out on her own. At my cousins weddings I would bring my own food or eat beforehand… Once I ate a bag of pretzels from a vending machine 🙂 I never felt left out.
Post # 16
I would definitely make a point to ensure that she’s taken care of on your wedding day. She might be able to “figure it out” on her own, but as your guest and good friend, it seems obvious that you’d want her to be able to eat at your wedding!