Post # 62
I’m sorry, but you just come off as really close-minded. Look, I’m with you that the easiest tasty things often have some sort of animal product in it! Am I tempted to put some tasty bleu cheese in my salad? Sure! But can I imagine a tasty salad without any cheese in it? Of course. The idea that you can’t is mind-boggling to me, like you almost want to cause animal-suffering on principle. I think that thinking meat/dairy/eggs are tasty is a legit reason for continuing to eat those things, and that’s cool, I don’t expect you to turn vegan – but to be unable to imagine eating a *single* meal without them is crazy. Just be open-minded enough to try to enjoy the food at someone else’s event without being crazy bitter about it! That’s what all of us vegetarians do when we get the gross “grilled vegetable plate” as the vegetarian option at someone else’s wedding – we suck it up and have a good time anyway because it’s someone else’s special day.
That said, when vegan is done right, you don’t miss it. I dare you (and anyone else who is convinced they could never be happy with a vegan meal) to get the “Sweet Corn and Cashew Tamales with Chili Spiced Portabella” at Pure Food & Wine, or the “Root Vegetable Phyllo Pastry” at Cafe Blossom or the miso ramen at Souen and tell me that there’s meat or cheese missing from those dishes and you aren’t completely satisfied. Or even just some dishes that are naturally vegan – udon noodles and veggies in a peanut sauce, penne arrabiata, etc. And you say you use real butter, not margarine… but is the difference so great that if they served mashed potatoes made with margarine at a wedding you wouldn’t eat it and would go home hungry instead?!
Post # 63
Sweet potato burgers and Portobello mushroom burgers would be delicious vegan gormet burger options! I say go for what makes you happiest on your wedding day. There are so many delicious vegan options out there!
Post # 64
@opalescent: Just be open-minded enough to try to enjoy the food at someone else’s event without being crazy bitter about it!
And you saying you use real butter, not margarine… but is the difference so great that if they served mashed potatoes made with margarine at a wedding you wouldn’t eat it and would go home hungry instead?!
Jesus christ on a crutch. I’m closed minded for not liking something? I’m closed minded for not wanting something? How the hell am I being bitter? If I don’t want something, I don’t want something. I’m not going to tell a vegan or a vegetarian they’re closed minded for not eating my non-vegan food at my wedding. That’s completely and mind bogglingly ridiculous. My coworker has said she’s never had a non-vegan meal she’s liked. Is she closed minded? I know you’re going to say no, because that’s a double standard. She’s never had a piece of steak, chicken or fish that she’s ever liked, and I don’t care. But, I guess I have to berate her for not being open minded enough to eat it and shut up and dance around my happy day, right? Ridiculous. I wouldn’t be upset to go home and make myself something to eat. No one is obligated to feed me at a wedding. I could give a crap about it one way or another. If I don’t want to eat, who’s problem is it but mine? I’m not going to pitch a fit to anyone, I’ll just shrug it off and get something to eat.
I want to make this absolutely crystal clear because it seems to be a massive misconception that I wouldn’t be ordering anything because it isn’t “carnivore friendly.” This is ten thousand percent untrue, and I am not opposed to trying new things. I have eaten a lot of vegan food in my life (See: I carpooled for years with a vegan and became very close personal friends. We cooked for each other often, and I tried a lot of her meals.) and I’m just not a fan. Would you jump all over someone who didn’t like Tai food, or Greek cuisine?
Butter: Yes. I notice a huge difference. I was raised on butter and when my father became diabetic, we switched to margarine (and subsequently back to butter) and I can completely taste the difference (I can’t believe it’s not butter & Country crock.) The taste is very defined to me, but there could be a thousand reasons why. Put me in a blind taste test. I’ll tell the two apart. My husband can’t taste the difference. I can.
Post # 65
Totally agree with you. Especially about the difference in flavor between butter and margarine.
Post # 66
Glad to know I’m not some sort of butter mutant. 😉
Post # 67
We are still waiting for a reply from the restaurant, but we’re going to be serving veggie semosas, veggie pakora, masala, different types of curries, garlic naan bread, Not sure about the rest yet.
I am not sure if you have vegan restaurants in your town, but if you find one, they will most likely be able to cater as well for a pretty decent price. So far the Indian restaurant has been the cheapest option for us. Our wedding budget is $15,000 for the whole wedding and so far we’re doing pretty good.
I am in CA and everything here is MUCH more expensive. It makes me want to just cancel the whole wedding and just go to vegas.
Post # 68
Thank you. I was just telliing Fiance that we should have a Destination Wedding. Ah, he reminded me I wanted the bigger wedding! lolI blame all those wedding shows, disney movies, and anything pretty! 😉
Post # 69
You should check out the moosewood cookbook for recipe ideas for your caterer.
Vegetable stack, pumpkin ravioli, rissotto, miso soup (or any number of soups), ratatouille, ragout, vegetable skewer, curry, stir fry, mexican (just about any dish can be turned vegan), avocado and red pepper sushi, spinach and mushroom triangles, grilled tempeh with black rice, vegetables in saffron and sage sauce served with pasta or rice, paella, stuffed peppers or butternut squash or zuchinni (corgette).
Post # 71
I’m vegetarian and eat a lot of soy and meat substitutes. My brother and Fiance have accidentally eaten my soy sausages and mince before, and didn’t notice any difference in the taste. You could serve some meat alternatives such as soy mince, sausages, pies, lasagnes etc. AND NO ONE WOULD KNOW That way, they’ll all enjoy the food and think they’re eating meat, and you won’t feel bad for killing animals You can even make meatloaf, burger patties, etc!
Or look on the internet for a few homemade recipes, which will save money
Post # 72
@trixiesrockets: While I personally disagree with the vegan philisophy I am very much of the belief that it is your wedding and you can do what you want. That said, I find vegan food disgusting, especially things like vegan burgers etc. I wouldn’t eat if dinner was a vegan meal and I think that it’s really going to be an issue if you have kids/older people at your wedding because neither of them is probably going to want to eat it. I also think people might leave early to get something to eat. There is also the worry that people are going to feel like you’re forcong your beliefs on them.
Also, please don’t serve loads of soy/a things because they’re so bad for the enviroment and taste awful.
Post # 73
@trixiesrockets: If you are both vegan I would serve vegan. My husband is vegan, I am mostly veg and don’t eat mammals. We had two entree options, one vegan, one chicken. One veggie appetizer and all the rest was vegan, including the cake, which was double chocolate with whiskey sauce. people loved the cake! we ran out. You can serve plenty of yummy vegan food. Pasta dishes, rissoto, polenta, veg appetizers, fried dishes. Asian food is also easily made vegan.
also, if you’re concerned about suffering animals, why go straight for the ones with bigger brains (hamburgers=cows)? How about fish or just a vegetarian (not vegan) dish? Seems a bit extreme to go from vegan to hamburger.
Post # 74
You and your Fiance should stay true to yourself and serve a vegan menu. Like PPs have said, people know that you are and are probably expecting it. I also agree that you should let people know ahead of time in case they’ll want to eat a little something ahead of time. Good luck!
Post # 75
My best friend is vegan and had all-vegan food at her reception…it was awesome! I think the key is to serve a variety of entrees, if it’s in your budget, so everyone can find something they’ll like (I’m only suggesting this because I realize a lot of people have probably never eaten vegan food before). I like the idea of a veggie lasagna with a great cheese substitute. There are meat substitutes that are really close to the real thing, too (as I’m sure you’re aware), if you want to do a “meat” lasagna to appease the more carnivorous people in your life. 🙂 But there are tons of other tasty dishes that appeal to meat-eaters. DH loves meat but also loved the butternut squash ravioli and rosemary potatoes at the aforementioned reception. You can also take popular dishes that your guests might like/be familiar with and subsitute vegan ingredients, too.
Post # 76
I do not eat a lot of soy. I actually am not a fan of the “fake” meats either. If I serve a vegan menu it will most likely be something non vegans are comfortable with and have eaten before.
The food truck served a vegan burger. This idea was early on, it sounded ok when I first mentioned it (it would accomodate all diets), but after I let it sit for a few days, it made me feel so terrible for coming up with it in the first place. :p
Thank you, I love the suggestions.