Post # 1
hello! So my fiance has been vegan for 13 years, so we are doing our whole wedding vegan to honor his beliefs/morals (he is commited to animal welfare adn sustainability). So I want to have an elegant way to state this at the top of our menus so this meaning and purpose will be convayed to the guests…
I was thinking “To honor the groom’s commitment to 13 years of veganism, all elements of our wedding are cruelty free” — but it still feels a bit long and clunky… suggestions?!
Post # 2
You dont need to do that. Just serve the food. It sounds preachy otherwise.
Post # 3
I wouldn`t do that.
a. you don’t need a menu- people get what they get. It’s not as if you are offering them options.
b. your wedding is not the time to preach at your guests in the guise of praising your FI’s lifestyle choices.
Post # 4
Politics should not enter your wedding plans because you risk making guests feel uncomfortable — you would be telling your (I would guess) majority meat-eating guests that that non-vegan diets are inherently cruel. Those who know your groom well will make the connection – just serve what you want without commentary.
Post # 5
Please don’t do it. If you need a menu, go ahead, but just leave off with the explanation.
Post # 6
Totally unnecessary. I’m vegan myself and this wouldn’t even cross my mind.
ETA: It’s stuff like this that makes people think we’re all judgy, preachy, gloating a**holes. I’m not saying he shouldn’t be proud of his beliefs or he shouldn’t feel like he’s not allowed to talk about it, just that your wedding really isn’t the place and I highly doubt anyone would even realise it’s vegan food anyway. Food is food. I serve vegan meals to dinner guests all the time and not once has someone complained there was no meat or screamed, “I can’t believe you used olive oil instead of butter!!” get what I mean?
Post # 7
Why do you have menus? Didn’t they check whatever offerings you are offering when you sent out the invites so you can plan to have the right amount of food to cover the guests? Or is this a buffet type of dinner?
I think you should just serve the food. I don’t mean to sound very insensitive, but if I were invited to a friends wedding and they were talking about thier vegan lifestyle, I would find it awkward and annoying. – Kind of like randomly stating somewhere in the wedding program my political leanings LOL.
Post # 8
I would just leave it off completely. If you are doing a menu, just list the food, not the reason. I would not personally be offended but I know plenty of other personalities that would be.
Post # 9
No don’t do that. What you are serving is what you are serving. That statement might as well be “hi, have I mentioned I do Crossfit?”
Post # 10
I think most places where I live have very beautiful menus written out for weddings. It’s just a nice elegant touch imo. However I’d leave the infomation about it being a vegan meal off. No need, people will quickly realize there are no meat options and can probably put two and two together. If anyone asks then that opens the door for a discussion about his veganism.
Post # 11
It could be alternate drop or just that everyone gets served the same thing. My venue doesn’t have the option for guests to choose what they want so all we really need is a headcount and any special dietary requirement info. Other than asking about allergies, our invitations will not mention the food at all.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s necessary. Just serve food.
Edit: If they know you & your fiance, wouldn’t they know he was a vegan already? They wouldn’t need it spelled out for them.
Post # 13
As a vegan, I think you should just serve the food! No need to state it.
Post # 14
Just make sure the food is yummy! Maybe have a sign by the catered buffet table (if doing so) or somewhere with cute little signs about the menu, and talk about 13 years of veganism there.
For the person saying this is a “politics” issue. No, it’s not…this is a science issue.
As a steak-lover I so agree with many of the reasons people go vegan.
Post # 15
I agree with the above commenters that it’s not necessary to add it to the menu since people presumably know you and your fiance and are aware of his lifestyle.
I also think the wording you proposed is loaded and unnecessarily political. Veganism in general isn’t a political issue – it’s a lifestyle choice – but it does have political elements related to the treatment of animals in the meat industry and the wording you proposed directly references this. It also implies that other lifestyle choices – eating meat – is cruelty-full and that people who eat meat don’t care about animals, which might be true but making guests feel guilty for their choices is probably not the most gracious/welcoming thing a host can do.
I think you can write something on the menus that highlights your fiance’s commitment to veganism that won’t come across as judgy or condescending. For instance, “In order to honor the groom’s 13 year commitment to veganism, we would like to share our favorite recipes with you.”