I haven’t read all the comments, but wanted to add my experience. My fiance and I are planning a fully vegan wedding. It’s been smooth so far, and fun!
Our venue had an option of 6 different caterers. We contacted them all, and all of them were eager to do a vegan wedding. Most had done one before but some hadn’t and you could tell they really wanted to add it to their repertoire (obviously this is becoming a common thing!). We went to like 8 different venues in total, so we talked to more than just those 6 caterers. All were willing to accomodate, but some of the venues with in-house catering or only one option I could tell would be more of the standard catering food which we DID NOT want. I go to a lot of caterered events and I am sick of pasta primavera and vegetable stacks!
We did tastings at two different caterers. Both were great, one was better. Phenomenal actually. She gave us multiple hors’ douevres options, and we picked our favorites. One is a tomato pesto crostini thing, and the other was roasted seasoned chickpeas. Salad is a summer corn, tomato, cucumber, and basil salad. Entree is a cashew cheese lasagna. It was a big portion and seriously delicious. There were other great options too though – a quinoa stuffed bell pepper (which we’ll keep as the gluten free/nut allergy option), a veggie pot pie, a mushroom wellington, and something else I think. Multiple choices in sides, including mashed cauliflour, sweet potato hash, and the more common options. We picked what we thought our guests would find delicious and slightly unusual, but not so far out of their comfort zone. No fake meats or anything (they didn’t give us that option but I probably would have declined it anyway. I don’t like them that much.)
I went to try on dresses and didn’t think I’d buy one at the time, so I wasn’t being very vigilant about materials. I did actually end up falling in love with a dress that had some silk on it. 🙁 Well, when I got home I looked it up and noticed there was silk and crossed it off my list! I should have paid more attention, but at least I didn’t buy it. Other than that, I thought it was pretty easy to avoid silk. Most of the lower to mid range designers don’t use it much. Lace, tulle, taffeta, and organza are almost always silk free (unless you’re going super high end), and surprisingly, so is satin. Trust me, the brand will brag if it’s silk satin, so it’s easy enough to spot. I’d check before you go shopping and come prepared with a list of styles you like that don’t have silk. I doubt most bridal store consultants will know.
It was a little challenging at first, but we were able to find quite a few places that made vegan cakes. I just Googled some – a few actually said they were vegan friendly right on the website so that was easy. Some said it on weddingwire too. We did 3 tastings. One was good, but tasted more like store bought cake, and one was a little more amateur and she did more cupcakes than cakes so we weren’t confident in her ability to make a traditional tiered cake in July. The third was the most expensive of course but was delicious. Moist and flavorful. All her chocolate cakes were vegan, even if customers didn’t specifically ask for it. She said she liked the texture better than non-vegan. And she was willing to make white cake vegan too. We went with 3 flavors: mexican hot chocolate, carrot cake, and strawberry (real strawberries mixed into the white cake, omg delicious).
My fiance is having his custom made at a place in Chicago that uses vegan fabrics (among others). He is buying the groomsmen suits. We’ve found several options at Macy’s that aren’t made of wool. Probably going with this one: http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/kenneth-cole-reaction-tonal-blue-shadow-check-slim-fit-suit?ID=2241141&CategoryID=17788&LinkType=#fn=COLOR%3DBlue%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D153%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D2
Bridal accessories use pearls more often than I thought, but it’s easy enough to find fake ones or avoid pearls completely.
I started out by searching for vegan friendly makeup artists, and didn’t have much luck. So I just found some I liked and emailed them and asked if they’d be willing to use vegan products. They all said yes so I just picked my favorite. Lots of airbrush makeup brands are vegan, so that’s good. And I have my own recommendations for other vegan makeup products if they’re stumped.
I want to do edible favors just to provide one more opportunity to feed people (like the few comments I’ve read on here, I want to make sure no one goes hungry!) I’ve found several chocolate truffle favors that come in vegan flavors. We are probably going to go with a little cookie place I found on Etsy that can do vegan cookies.
I think that’s it. I might be forgetting something. Luckily, my fiance is totally on board with a vegan wedding even though he’s an omnivore (we eat vegan at home, and he shares the cooking too, so I’m grateful he’s so okay with it). My mom, stepdad, and sister are all vegan, so no huge struggles with the family. My mom and stepdad are chipping in for most of the catering too, and my mom is a more opinionated vegan than I am, so her buying meat or dairy would be out of the question anyway. My dad and stepmom are used to our veganism by now and expected it to be vegan. My friends expect it. If my distant family is upset with it, I won’t lose any sleep if they decide not to come.
My fiance has “warned” many of his family and friends that it will be vegan. Any time I’ve gone to any of their houses they’ve been very understanding about it, so I’m not too worried.
I think the most important factor that influences how hard or easy of a time you’ll have planning a vegan wedding is where you live, specifically in a city or in a more rural area. We live in a relatively large city, but it’s in the midwest, so it’s not like it has to be one of the coasts. If we were trying to do this where we lived before (small town in a more rural area of midwest) we’d run into a LOT of problems.
Good luck! I might post again if I feel like reading all the comments.