Vegans at my (totally) non vegan wedding

posted 10 months ago in Food
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have no been in this situation, but I think when your food choices are this strict and limited… you get used to being in situations like this.  It’s unfortunate that they can’t enjoy the food, aside from ordering a few vegan items just for them or letting them bring their own food, I don’t see what else can be done.  I personally wouldn’t change my menu on the account of 2 people.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

Surely there could be some form of salad that they could eat that your caterer could make? It could be a hearty salad with chick peas or something in it.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Upon being told that your brother and sister in law are vegan your caterer should happily provide a vegan entree option. Whether they want to do it or not it’s something the caterers should be accustomed to and will need to figure out–eat around the crust is not an appropriate response. If they refuse to accommodate this request can you order them an entree from Whole Foods or someplace similar?

A pasta salad w/o dairy, green salad, fruit kabobs, pickled green beans (can buy them in a jar, they are yummy), grilled veggies (asparagus, zucchini, bell peppers, mushrooms, etc), beans and rice –there are a lot of vegan sides that work well with BBQ and can be enjoyed by everyone. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

this is your BROTHER, not just a guest. i would work with the caterer to come up with food for your brother and SIL.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If they’ve been vegan for a while, then ideally you would have checked that there were catering options for them as part of your decision process. If they’ve become vegan recently (after you picked the caterers) then I think that’s something that isn’t ideal but something that isn’t either sides fault. I don’t think there is anything you can do, other than let them bring their own food and keep them in mind for any future events.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

kittemae1990 :  Is there nothing the caterer can do to provide them something to eat?  If they cannot, then are you able to order something from outside and have it served or does the caterer have an exclusive contract with all food that they refuse to bend on?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

kittemae1990 :  ” it’s our day not theirs.”  This is a pretty shitty way to host. 

Granted, veganism is more difficult to accommodate than vegetarianism but it’s not that difficult that you & your caterer can’t come up with nice options for them. If you’re BBQing, can you do portobello mushroom burgers for them? I do these on the grill with a marinade of balsamic vinegar, olive oil, spices, and a little mustard and brown sugar (Just cook them separately or first so meat drippings aren’t on them). Or do veggie sausages.  Pastas, salad, Ratatoille, risotto etc are all options. Vegan cheese & almond or soy milk can be substituted in many recipes. 

If I can come up with these off the top of my head (and I’m not vegan or vegetarian), how can your chef not come up with anything? And ‘eat around the crust’ is insultingly inconsiderate. 

However, if ‘eat around the crust’ is the best you can do for your vegan family members, then at least let them bring their own food so they’re not sitting there hungry and totally left out. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

kittemae1990 :  A grilled corn salad could be good, too. Some cold or room temp sides are great with BBQ–can serve in chilled insulated bowls and you don’t have to worry quite as much about holding appropriate food temps on a hot day–dairy-based things can be tough sometimes. I’ve had some great potato salads with vinegar/mustard dressing with capers and dill instead of mayo-based. Where there is a will there is a way.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

What would your caterer do if any of your guests have allergies? Tell them to “eat around” something that could kill them? I cannot believe a caterer would respond that way instead of catering to your needs – you’re actually paying them to treat you like this?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

kittemae1990 :  I would talk to the caterer and insist they come up with a tasty and hearty vegan alternative. If they need a little push, you could always bring up that having such options in their menus does make business sense, as the vegan community is growing, and not only will they continue to encounter guests who are vegan, but these people might be in the need of catering services in the near future. A caterer who also offers delicious vegan dishes is a smart caterer.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I think this pretty shitty of your caterers. It is their job to cater for everyone! Caterers are one of the highest costs (for me and my Fiance it is the number 1 highest cost) so they should be bending over backwards to please you. 

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