(Closed) Vegas baby – and what I mean is a baby in Vegas – oy vey

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’d let her know that the hotel has a sitting service for the children since this will be an adults only ceremony and reception. I do understand why your fsil wants to bring her baby, I’d freak living my little one with someone else while i’m out of the country, but I suppose that’s another story. Have you tried to call the hotel to see if they have a sitting service or perhaps a nanny service?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

yeah i personally wouldn’t bring an 8 month old to the ceremony though.. if they have a sitter that would work really well and you can mention it to the other parents that there will be a sitter for x amount of dollars (so they can bring their little ones too)… i have an 8 year old and i often wonder what in the world i’ll do for a honeymoon when it’s time. i get sad when he visits my parents for a week!!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

I agree on the babysitter thing. BUT I could see your Future Sister-In-Law not wanting to leave her 8 month old w/a stranger (especially if it’s her first baby). Future Sister-In-Law should know to at least sit toward the back during the ceremony so that if her baby starts crying, she can quickly exit. Or maybe a more distant relative can watch the baby for the short time?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

If the baby starts crying during the ceremony, she’ll likely get up and leave the space.

It’s hard to put yourself in the shoes of a new mom – I think it’s an amazing things she’s traveling all the way with a young child (that’s a feat in itself!!) to be at her brother’s wedding.

No one wants a crying baby at the wedding and I’m sure she’ll know how to handle herself. 

The last time I was in Vegas I was shocked to see young kids (2-4) out past midnight, walking the strip with their parents.  Meaning – people DO bring young kids to vegas all the time.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I feel sorry for all those people on that flight with them! babies can’t pop their ears like adults and tend to scream quite a bit. Or so I learned on my flight to the UK….industrial earplugs, hell yeah.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

If you could find her a babysitter, that would be a really nice gesture.  She is going to be your SIL after all.  She’d probably have more fun that way too.  Also, for your friends who can’t bring their kids, I don’t think they’d mind that you made an exception for immediate family.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Sounds like you got to the real reason of the frustrating. I can see how her bringing her baby would bother you if you are frustrated with her in general. BUT she IS coming all the way from New Zealand, which is quite a trip, with or without a baby. And my guess is that she won’t want to leave the baby with a strange baby sitter. That is hard enough when your child is 7 or 8 years old, but not many people would leave an infant with a stranger. However, in relation to the situation of the baby possibly crying, someone in HER family (your future in laws or partner) should speak to her and just mention that either she or her husband should be in charge of taking the baby out of the ceremony if the baby starts to cry. Just be up front with your expectation.

As for her being an attention hog and paying for her flight… uggggg… BIG HUGS!!! It can be sooo frustrating. BUT try not to let it get to you. It is hard for anyone to take attention away from the bride. Although a few people might succumb to her tactics (maybe your FI’s parents), most will be too focused on you to even notice. So don’t let it get to you! And don’t worry about it… you will be so beautiful and you will be glowing, and it really will be about you and your hubby. If she tries to pull attention away, just don’t let her. Be super nice, and if necessary, have your hubby talk to her. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

BOO! you guys bought their flights?!

You are very generous in my opinion. Taking the upper higher road and being the GENEROUS ones. I hope she and her hubs at least take you out for a congrats dinner. I mean, really.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow. I cannot imagine bringing a child… let alone a baby- to Vegas!!!!!! So much smoke and gambling everywhere. It’s really not healthy for a baby. Just mo … hopefully everything works out.

And I have to add that 8 months old is SOOOOOOOOO young. Aren’t they still feeding all the time … sleeping schedules? My fiances sister-in-law has 2 (oldest is 2) and they are on crazy strict schedules of naps + feedings.

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