(Closed) vegas bachelor party! help!!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My guy is going for 4 days….but it’s about 2 weeks before the wedding.  I am not thrilled about it, but feel there’s not much I can do.  I mean, I’m not going to stop him!  I voiced that it makes me a bit uncomfortable, but I have no good reasons for why it should.  I am trying to put on my big girl panties and stop moping about it.  My girls and I are going to Virginia Beach that weekend anyways!

It might be good that the trip is so close to the wedding in that, you’ll have so much other stuff on your mind. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My guy is going for 4 days….but it’s about 2 weeks before the wedding.  I am not thrilled about it, but feel there’s not much I can do.  I mean, I’m not going to stop him!  I voiced that it makes me a bit uncomfortable, but I have no good reasons for why it should.  I am trying to put on my big girl panties and stop moping about it.  My girls and I are going to Virginia Beach that weekend anyways!

It might be good that the trip is so close to the wedding in that, you’ll have so much other stuff on your mind. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My guy is going to Amsterdam for four days. I have no issue with him going because it is a few months before the wedding. The last week is going to be stressful and I will need him around. Well have all seen the “Hangover” so I can see how you would be concerned.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Why does it have to be 4 days before the wedding?  I would definitely have a problem with them doing it that close to the wedding.  I’d talk to your Fiance and see if he and his groomsmen could go a week or two earlier to play it safe.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I would have no problem with Fiance going to Vegas for 4 days.  I would have a problem with him going if he was going the 4 days before the wedding.  We have lots of family coming in town and we will have lots to do the few days before the wedding and it wouldn’t be fair for me to have to deal with all the details by myself. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have no problem with strip clubs, my issue would be more of the costs. Lucky for me Fiance doesn’t really like Vegas. Is it all paid for by friends because for us unless it was I’d be furious because we can’t afford 4 days in Vegas right before the wedding. Other than that I don’t know I’d see so much of an issue.

@VirginiaMarie good point, close to the wedding means you’ll have too much going on to worry about what he’s doing!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

4 days before the wedding seems like it’s cutting it close! Maybe there’s a way they could change it to sooner so that he’d be around right before the wedding?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have no problem with my Fiance going to Vegas or anywhere else…but coming back the day before the wedding?? That would definitely peeve me.  We’re both doing our parties at least three weeks before. The week before the wedding will be for finishing up last minute stuff and just resting. I can’t imaging having my Fiance gone for that whole week–I’m definitely going to need him to help calm me down and tell me that everything will go smoothly. Is he set on going during that time frame?

As for the location, I mean, bottom line, either you trust him not to do anything that would bother you (which may or may not include strippers, gambling, lap dances, etc). Talk to him honestly about how you feel.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just put my Fiance on a plane to Chicago for his Guys weekend– and I’m so jealous! I have no problem with the trip- i trust him to come home to me –  but I would certianly have issues if it were 4 days out from the wedding– wayyy too close for comfort with family and last minute things.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I would be really upset at the fact that the Vegas trip was planned right before the wedding.  It’s irresponsible and disrespectful of all the planning and prep you’ve already done and are going to be doing.  He probably doesn’t see it this way though… Have you talked to him about it?

However, I don’t see anything wrong with the trip to Vegas itself.  If you can’t trust him to be out of your sight for 4 days, why would you marry him and trust him with all the big things like parenting your children, growing old with you, etc.?  Unless he has idiot pervert friends.  Then I might be mildly worried, haha. 

 

Incidentally, my Fiance is going on a 4-day Vegas bachelor party, which upset me not because it was right before the wedding, but because he’s going to be MISSING MY BIRTHDAY and he didn’t think it was a big deal at all until I pointed it out to him.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m getting images of The Hangover 🙂 I think it’s great that the guys are going to Vegas for a 4-day bachelor party – how fun! However, I’d talk to FH, and see if it’s possible for him to return a day early to welcome family, help with last-minute details, etc. Maybe he just doesn’t realize (and the guys probably don’t either) how much there is to do in the days leading up to your wedding day. Or … if he doesn’t want to miss out on any Vegas time, and his friends are reasonable guys, you could talk to them about “shortening” the trip by a day or two. They might want to be back to meet the women in the bridal party and hang out, too…. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well 2 weeks ago my Fiance went to Vegas for his bachelor party. I was SO worked up about it. I think it bothered me because my bachelorette was just a night out on the town in DC and I didnt spend any money (my girls paid for me the whole night) whereas Fiance gambled away like $400!!! I didnt have a real reason of why it made me uncomfortable – it just did!!!

Once Fiance got back everything was fine – and actually our relatoinship has gotten better because we have made sure to listen more closely and be more open.

I would be pissed if he was going 4 days before the wedding though!! here’s the thing – he is going to be SOO tired when he gets back!! My Fiance took a day off work and was just tired and drained for a few days after he came home. Why does he have to do it so close to the wedding??

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree that the big thing here is that he’s going so close to your wedding. Fi planned his Vegas trip over a month in advance because there’s a ton of stuff we’ll be doing the week of the wedding.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Vegas ohhh boy, thatwould’ve been nice for u 2 go along…

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