Post # 16
Wow, I have never heard that if the Bride wants to go out of town for her Bach that she should be the one to cover all the costs. You guys sound like excellent friends to make the Bride pay for you. If it is too expenisve just let the Bride know hey I can’t afford it…end of story, no big deal.
Post # 17
I wouldn’t expect the bride to pay but I personally wouldn’t waste my time off and money on an out of town bachelorette party. Dont be mad if some of your girls don’t either.
Post # 18
Why aren’t your bridesmaids planning this for you? If you want a Bach party and nobody has discussdd it yet, it might be better for you to talk to one or two of your close friends to see if someone will take the lead and ask the girls to see if Vegas is doable. You can mention covering the hotel to the planners if you want.
Post # 19
SkinnyLatte17: I’m going to Vegas for my bachelorette and the trip is booked.
I brought it up to my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor (small wedding party) and they both loved the idea and agreed on going.
We all paid for our own flights/hotel (price as all inclusive) and there wasn’t a conversation about it — we just agreed on a max price before we started looking so that nobody went out of budget.
When we’re there, we’ll pay for our own things as well, though I do plan on paying for some day-trip activities and drinks and stuff since they’re spending so much money on the trip and my wedding in general.
At the end of the day, if one girl didn’t want to go/couldn’t afford it, there wouldn’t have been any pressure for them to come. Luckily, we all agreed and are looking forward to having an awesome time!
I would just like to add that it might come down to making a hard decision: Do you want ALL your girls to be at your Bachelorette Party? Or do you want to go to Vegas? <br /><br />My Maid/Matron of Honor had to make that exact decision for her Bachelorette pary and chose her girls over the location. The thing her BMs planned for her was a frigging disaster and she was SO disappointed. They felt like she was ungrateful (she wasn’t, they just planned a weekend THEY wanted and did stuff/went places she said she DID NOT want to do). And she felt like they didn’t give two shits about her (which from my POV, is true). It was a terribly disappointing situation and while they stayed as her BMs, they disowned her as a friend basically right after the wedding.
Just make sure you do what you really want, if you have strong feelings about this.
Post # 20
I think covering the hotel is very generous! I have been to out of state bachelorette parties where I have had to foot my entire bill and I expected it. Before you plan it though I would make sure your friends are onboard. If your best friends can’t go, you might need to rethink your bach and plan for Vegas another time.
Post # 21
cynbarr: thanks so much! What kind of package deal did you get? That’s what I’ve been trying to find as well!
Post # 22
SkinnyLatte17: If people are aware that it’s an out of town even, and they don’t have to pay for the hotel, then they can make the decision to attend or not. Let them pay for their flights.
One of my friends wanted a LV bachelorette, we made it happen and she covered her own costs and we covered ours.
Post # 23
While I haven’t been able to speak to all of my girls regarding this idea yet, I think it may not work out after all because about a half hour ago one of my BM’s who is one of my very best friends just told me that she’s pregnant with baby #3!!! and due next february. So even if we go in august to Vegas I don’t know how comfortable she’d be leaving her 6 mont old (plus an 8 and 5 year old) at home. Maybe we’ll dI a wine tour or something instead. We’ll see hos it goes! Yay! 🙂 so excited for her!!
Post # 24
I think the fact that you’re covering the hotel and your own costs (which typically are covered by the other girls) is very generous. My friend has a bachelorette party that required a flight and hotel stay that was her idea. It was “planned” by her Maid/Matron of Honor but she decided where it was. I didn’t go because I couldn’t afford a flight plus the hotel. If she had paid for our hotel stay, I could have definitely afforded the flight and gone. It’s the cost of both together that normally prevents people from going.
Post # 25
SkinnyLatte17: it depends. if you want more people there and are willing to front the added costs in order for them to be there, then pay for everything. i know if i were invited to a bachelorette right now in Vegas and had to cover the cost of my own flight i wouldn’t go, because that’s outside the realm of possibility for us financially.
Post # 26
SkinnyLatte17: It was flight + hotel – I couldn’t for the life of me find one with any food included sadly. I think that we found it on expedia but I can’t remember for sure. If you could do a last minute thing, you’ll be able to find an awesome deal! We couldn’t do that as my BM had to book time off work well in advance, but we still got it for under $1000 (and we we’re flying from Toronto in Canada so flights are SO expensive…about 90% of the cost of the whole package!)
Post # 27
SkinnyLatte17: I just got back from an out-of-town bachelorette party last weekend and the bridesmaids split everything for the bride, including the hotel costs, party bus rental, etc., and our own flights. It worked and we all had a great time, but I definitely would have been a lot happier in the planning stages if the bride was covering the hotel or something! It is pretty sweet that you are taking care of that for the ladies!