(Closed) Vegas Bachelorette Party. Bride's idea. Who pays?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is covering hotel cost enough?
    Yes-covering hotel is sufficient : (58 votes)
    78 %
    No-you should cover hotel and flights : (16 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 16
    19 posts
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Wow, I have never heard that if the Bride wants to go out of town for her Bach that she should be the one to cover all the costs. You guys sound like excellent friends to make the Bride pay for you. If it is too expenisve just let the Bride know hey I can’t afford it…end of story, no big deal.


    Post # 17
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I wouldn’t expect the bride to pay but I personally wouldn’t waste my time off and money on an out of town bachelorette party. Dont be mad if some of your girls don’t either.

    Post # 18
    1772 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Why aren’t your bridesmaids planning this for you? If you want a Bach party and nobody has discussdd it yet, it might be better for you to talk to one or two of your close friends to see if someone will take the lead and ask the girls to see if Vegas is doable. You can mention covering the hotel to the planners if you want. 

    Post # 19
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SkinnyLatte17:  I’m going to Vegas for my bachelorette and the trip is booked.

    I brought it up to my Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor (small wedding party) and they both loved the idea and agreed on going.

    We all paid for our own flights/hotel (price as all inclusive) and there wasn’t a conversation about it — we just agreed on a max price before we started looking so that nobody went out of budget.

    When we’re there, we’ll pay for our own things as well, though I do plan on paying for some day-trip activities and drinks and stuff since they’re spending so much money on the trip and my wedding in general. 

    At the end of the day, if one girl didn’t want to go/couldn’t afford it, there wouldn’t have been any pressure for them to come. Luckily, we all agreed and are looking forward to having an awesome time!


    I would just like to add that it might come down to making a hard decision: Do you want ALL your girls to be at your Bachelorette Party? Or do you want to go to Vegas? <br /><br />My Maid/Matron of Honor had to make that exact decision for her Bachelorette pary and chose her girls over the location. The thing her BMs planned for her was a frigging disaster and she was SO disappointed. They felt like she was ungrateful (she wasn’t, they just planned a weekend THEY wanted and did stuff/went places she said she DID NOT want to do). And she felt like they didn’t give two shits about her (which from my POV, is true). It was a terribly disappointing situation and while they stayed as her BMs, they disowned her as a friend basically right after the wedding. 

    Just make sure you do what you really want, if you have strong feelings about this. 

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by  cynbarr.
    Post # 20
    1868 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think covering the hotel is very generous! I have been to out of state bachelorette parties where I have had to foot my entire bill and I expected it. Before you plan it though I would make sure your friends are onboard. If your best friends can’t go, you might need to rethink your bach and plan for Vegas another time.

    Post # 22
    1557 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    SkinnyLatte17:  If people are aware that it’s an out of town even, and they don’t have to pay for the hotel, then they can make the decision to attend or not. Let them pay for their flights.

    One of my friends wanted a LV bachelorette, we made it happen and she covered her own costs and we covered ours. 

    Post # 24
    6107 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think the fact that you’re covering the hotel and your own costs (which typically are covered by the other girls) is very generous. My friend has a bachelorette party that required a flight and hotel stay that was her idea. It was “planned” by her Maid/Matron of Honor but she decided where it was. I didn’t go because I couldn’t afford a flight plus the hotel. If she had paid for our hotel stay, I could have definitely afforded the flight and gone. It’s the cost of both together that normally prevents people from going.

    Post # 25
    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    SkinnyLatte17:  it depends. if you want more people there and are willing to front the added costs in order for them to be there, then pay for everything. i know if i were invited to a bachelorette right now in Vegas and had to cover the cost of my own flight i wouldn’t go, because that’s outside the realm of possibility for us financially.

    Post # 26
    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SkinnyLatte17:  It was flight + hotel – I couldn’t for the life of me find one with any food included sadly. I think that we found it on expedia but I can’t remember for sure. If you could do a last minute thing, you’ll be able to find an awesome deal! We couldn’t do that as my BM had to book time off work well in advance, but we still got it for under $1000 (and we we’re flying from Toronto in Canada so flights are SO expensive…about 90% of the cost of the whole package!)

    Post # 27
    774 posts
    Busy bee

    SkinnyLatte17:  I just got back from an out-of-town bachelorette party last weekend and the bridesmaids split everything for the bride, including the hotel costs, party bus rental, etc., and our own flights. It worked and we all had a great time, but I definitely would have been a lot happier in the planning stages if the bride was covering the hotel or something! It is pretty sweet that you are taking care of that for the ladies!

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