(Closed) Vegas wedding – June – STD – Pre-RSVP and Kids…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5668 posts
Bee Keeper

You can mention on the website that it’s adult only but chances are people are going to want to bring their kids anyway. I live in Vegas but for most of our guests this will be a destination wedding. Even though our ceremony and reception are adult only I know many are planning on making a family vacation out of it and bringing children on the trip anyway. I would just make a point to write the names of those invited on the envelope and be prepared to field questions about children being invited. I wouldn’t worry about the +1 part until the invites go out.

I think the pre-RSVP thing is kind of weird and pointless. I would just send out the invites a little earlier if you want RSVP counts early.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

What if some people want to make it a family vacation? I’d say just put the names of the people you’re inviting on the invite, and if they RSVP with more, call them and explain that due to space, you can’t have their children at the wedding. I don’t think it’s a great idea for a destination wedding to tell people they cannot bring their children along for a vacation. Some people find it hard enough to find a sitter for an evening, forget finding a sitter for a weekend/long weekend/week!

Post # 6
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If people mostly already know when your wedding will be, and you can spread your web site by word of mouth, why not just send invites early, 10-12 weeks out?  Save-The-Date Cards aren’t always necessary.

As for the kids, it is all right to not invite them, just be sure to indicate the names of those invited on the invitations – Mr. and Mrs. John Smith rather than the Smith family.  If people RSVP with additional guests, just call and clarify that you cannot accommodate the children or extras.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

I personally think a pre-rsvp is rude. A lot of guests circumstance can change between receiving a STD and actually getiing the invite and/or the offical RSVP date. Some one who may not be in the best financial situation at the time of your pre-rsvp might have a change of fortune and because of your pre-rsvp will have to miss the wedding!

I also miss the reason why you would even want pre-rsvp’s?

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