(Closed) Vegetarian Faux Pas? Please Help!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is having an all vegetarian reception an etiquette faux pas?

    Yes- Your reception is for your guests-respect their tastes

    Yes- Only if you don't provide one meat option for your guests who dont share your beliefs

    No- It is only one meal;also it is free they shouldn't complain

    No-If you are morally against animal consumption then don't pay for it on your wedding day

  • Post # 18
    863 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    WTF? Is someone going to die without eating meat for one meal? ONE meal? Their arteries will be secretly thanking you for it.


    Post # 19
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think it would help us comment if we knew what your menu will be? Do you know what you are serving? Or just that there will be no meat involved? I think as long as the food has enough substance and isn’t food that non vegetarians Could be wary of such as tofu you should be fine!

    Post # 20
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s YOUR wedding, so you serve what you want. I’ve been to a vegetarian wedding, and because everyone knew the couple’s lifestyle, they didn’t bat a lash that there was no meat. The food was amazing actually!!!

    Post # 21
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I don’t think you need to fold, but you need to be willing to accept that you might offend some people if you don’t serve meat. I think it’s silly, but I know from experience that a fair number of people (often men) don’t feel like they’ve really eaten unless they’ve eaten meat.

    Post # 22
    1900 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The trouble is, a lot of people who are really into meat, don’t tend to be too adventurous with vegetables, so while you can do fantastic meals with eggplant or artichokes, they probably won’t touch it, because their idea of a tasty vegetable is potato or beans.

    Honestly, I’d provide a meat option, but only as far as you’re comfortable – e.g. some people are comfortable eating chicken or fish, but not red meat; some will eat beef but not pork (because pigs can be quite intelligent). Also, if you do use meat, try to source it from a safe/free-range option – they do exist! My parents are beef farmers, and we’ve probably got some of the happiest cows you’ll ever meet.

    Post # 23
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I agree with the posters who think you should stick to your beliefs on this. You and your fiancé clearly feel strongly about it but are also striving to be thoughtful toward your guests. There are lots of delicious options, like Italian dishes, where I personally would not even notice that there was no meat being served.

    Post # 25
    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @futuremrsfitz18:  Just as a vegetarian expects to be somewhat accommodated at a wedding (having a vegetarian option on the menu, or being able to get the sides on the plate with no meat), carnivores really should also have an option they would like.

    To me, this isn’t really an comparable situation. The difference, IMO, is that vegetarians can’t eat meat at all. Non-vegetarians, on the other hand, can most certainly eat vegetables, dairy, grains, etc. (Barring lactose or gluten intolerance, etc.) So while vegetarians would be forced to go hungry at an all-meat reception, omnivores could eat everything on the menu at a vegetarian reception.

    Post # 27
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have friends who are having a vegan reception- we actually just all assumed it would be vegan because they are strict vegans.  Two of the guys said they were going to eat beforehand, but my friends and I are going in with an open mind.  That said, I am not one to turn down a culinary adventure, and I have no problem eating vegan food.

    Post # 28
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am a BIG meat eater and I absolutely think that you should stick to your morals on this one. I frequently end up eating meals that are vegetarian without even realizing it, so I don’t see why you’d need to serve meat if you’ve got some hearty options. I’d be more than happy with some nice pasta, vegetarian lasagna, mac and cheese, etc. As long as the menu isn’t too hoity toity and there are foods that a layperson would recognize, I just don’t see the problem here.

    I do agree that if your entrees are just mixtures of vegetables or tofu based, that might not be accomodating of all palettes though. But you certainly don’t need meat to have a satisfying meal.

    Post # 29
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    While I personally wouldn’t object, I think you should be prepared for the possibility that some meat eaters wouldn’t be thrilled to arrive at a reception where the menu is a testament to how immoral you consider their lifestyle. No matter how much a meat-eating friend respects your right to serve the food your agree with, there’s no way to ignore the part where you consider your choice more moral and ethical than theirs. 

    That being said, I would be surprised to arrive at a vegetarian-for-moral-reasons wedding and be served meat. I wouldn’t talk trash about you for leaving it out as long as the food was still truly flavorful and delicious. 

    Post # 30
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    There have been other people on the Bee who have had meat-free weddings. As a carnivore, it’s fine; it’s your wedding, and they’re your values. HOWEVER, I would suggest having more than one entrée choice. And definitely have at least one tried & true cheesy favourite, probably something with pasta.

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