Post # 47
@Jess1483: For some of us, supporting the meat industry by buying and serving it at our wedding is just as bad as eating it ourselves. There are ethical reasons to not eat meat.
If you think food needs to have meat to be considered “good food”, then you’re ignorant and could benefit from being educated on the topic.
Brides get to choose their colors, their location, which of their BFFs to adorn as a Maid/Matron of Honor, but our food should be the guests choice? I find that to be ludicrous.
Post # 48
@drA: I don’t think you read my post very carefully. I don’t have any problem with vegetarian food, as long as you make it taste good. That’s all I said. The point I was making is that a bride trying to make her wedding an “educational experience” implies that those guests who would not normally eat that food are “uneducated” in that aspect and really ought to know better and therefore need to be educated. It’s the same thing that annoys me when people say they want a child-free wedding because “it’ll give the parents a night out without their kids.” You are more than welcome to have a child-free wedding, but don’t pretend that removing the option of bringing my child with me is a favor to me. I will probably still attend and leave my child at home, but removing an option (especially when I have to pay for the babysitter) is never “doing me a favor.”)
I’m also very familiar with “ethical reasons” for being a vegetarian. I even agree with many of them. I have a Masters Degree in ethics, in fact. Have a vegetarian wedding. It won’t affect my attendance either way (if I were going to go, I’d still go; if I weren’t, I wouldn’t.) I may grumble a bit if I don’t like the offerings, but only to myself/DH, just as I would if they served a meat choice I didn’t like. Just don’t pretend I need to be “educated” because I KNOW why you choose to be a vegetarian (or could tell you within 2 or 3 guesses; i.e. I understand all the arguments), I just don’t want to be one myself, and implying I need to be “educated” about it shows me that you don’t think very highly of your guests.
Or you may have chosen your words not very carefully, and you may not truly think that at all. But it is how it “sounded” to me.
@TGold: I understand that. I just hate the way that post came off (see my response to @drA: )
Post # 49
@mypinkshoes: I find your post a little offensive, I was raised to be accommodating and polite to others. However if I invite people over for dinner the I will not be cooking them a steak. I’m not meat free for the fun of it. It’s an ethical and personal descion. If someone bodes not want to eat a portobello burger at a BBQ at my house then they are more than welcome to bring their own burgers. I do not cook meat. It does not enter my home. Your husband(FI?) sounds like a extremely picky eater who couldn’t be happy if I have chicken with this menu anyways.
My goal with this was to have a low environmental impact and show family and friends who crack on me that’ a meat free meal can be JUST as filling and good. I think I’ve gotten my answer As to what I should do.
Thanks to all the commenters!