Post # 1
Fiance and I are eloping and having a small wedding dinner a month later for 22 people. I told a close friend about the dinner and she asked about the menu and I said it was probably going to be a choice of chicken, steak or fish and she responded with “I don’t eat that, im vegetarian”. I recall her being a vegetarian 10 yrs ago then she ate meat for a long while and this is the first I’m hearing about it again. She lives 2 hrs from me and although we are “close” friends, I hardly ever see her because of the distance and our schedules. There are no other vegetarians attending, do I have to offer a vegetarian option because of her comment ? I just felt that it was a rude and insensitive thing to say. It’s a five course meal with flatbread pizzas, appetizers (plated, not passed) and a salad before the entree, is that enough ? should I be upset at the comment?
Post # 3
No you shouldn’t be upset, she is simply stating a fact. She is vegetarian and therefore can not eat the choices you gave. Can you do one plate of something vegetarian for her?
Post # 4
We’re having a small wedding (about 50 people) and I didn’t include a vegetarian option. I know everyone well enough to know that there aren’t any vegetarians on the guest list. But, if someone brings a date who is a vegetarian I will offer that one person a meatless meal (as long as they tell me in advance, obviously).
If she is choosing to become a vegetarian again after eating meat for however long then I don’t feel like there is much you can do about that. If your caterer can offer one veggie meal for no extra fee then I’d do it. You can’t expect her to sit there without a meal at dinner, especially a seated dinner. It is a free meal, but I feel a certain obligation to feed everyone at my wedding…
Post # 5
I was the only vegetarian at my brother’s wedding, and they had eggplant for me.
Post # 6
@mseagles: I think you should offer her a vegetarian choice. Most caterers will do that for free. I think if she was only to eat the non meat portions of the meal you have planned she would still be hungry. I don’t know about you but I get cranky when I’m hungry. No one wants a cranky guest!
Post # 7
Thank you girls. I will talk to the restaurant about adding something for her. I think I was just upset because alot of people are complaining to me about my wedding and it just felt like one more thing that I’m doing wrong. I get it though.
Post # 8
I think you have to offer a vegetarian option, even if you have no vegetarian guests, partly because some people prefer veggie options and also because some of them may have dietary requirements which are quite complicated… and a veggie dish may be more likely to meet those requirements.
Post # 9
@mseagles: Don’t be upset. I think she caught you at a stressful moment. I don’t think it will be an issue for the restaurant to add a vegetarian option.
Post # 10
I’m glad you’re going to ask the caterer! We’re having a vegan and someone with EXTREMELY severs Celiac Disease. Our caterer was like “Yeah! When can do two special meals. No problem!
Post # 11
If you want her to come, then you should feed her a meal she will eat. People have the right to change their diets whenever they want, and as a host, it is your responsibility to be gracious and accomodating.
Her statement wasn’t rude, just informative.