(Closed) Vegetarian wedding? What do you think?

posted 10 years ago in Food
Post # 17
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Helper bee

Pfft. I’m a happy cranivore who takes in a great many calories in animal proteins each day. That said, I don’t NEED to eat meat at every meal. There are LOTS of delicious vegetarian means to be had.I say go for it, but be smart about your menu choices.

A few years ago I was a guest at a vegetarian wedding. They served heaps of grilled vegetables (yum) and a big lentil dish and it was fabulous. I didn’t pine for meat or feel cheated out of meat dishes and I had plenty toeat. It was great. What I really remember about that wedding is not the absence of meat, but the absence of red wine. Their venue only permitted white wine, not red. I was disgruntled about the wine but perfectly happy to eat a meal that satisfied the ethical stance of my hosts.

Do it!

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was once vegan and although veggie meals can be very very yummy – i would prefer a meat option, especially as i know hubby would be telling me that he will be getting a pizza on the way home as he would still be hungry

 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t be disappointed, and being the guest I wouldn’t say anything….but it would have to be some pretty amazing and filling food for me to be happy!  I would imagine you might get some comments and reactions from people only because not everyone knows how to keep their mouth shut when necessary.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

As long as you have enough substantial food and a large variety, I think you can serve whatever you want to. It’s your wedding! But you should be prepared to hear some tongues wag. It might be tough if your Fiance doesn’t feel the same way. Would you mind serving fish?

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

There is NO problem with a vegetarian wedding! There are soooo many great dishes the caterer can make without having meat. I would not mind in the least bit if I went to a wedding like this (and I am not vegetarian). And you said that you “really really really” want YOUR wedding to be vegetarian, I mean, it’s your wedding!

But a BBQ would be a little weird with no meat, not gonna lie.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I see a lot of comments worried about a plate of all veggies, here are some menu items that I can think of off the top of my head that are delicious and vegetarian: Mozzarella with a balsamic drizzle, a great tortellini pasta, pumpkin soup with a dollop of yogurt in the middle, a really great salad with homemade croissants and goat cheese, Portobello burgers, eggplant parm, fancy mac and cheese. Stuffed mushrooms, an amazing cheese platter… I can go on.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

I’m a vegetarian, I’m not having a vegetarian wedding and I would NEVER have a vegetarian BBQ. I also don’t cook 2 meals a night – goodness, you need to be nicer to yourself 🙂 If Fi wants meat, he can cook it himself. Sure, last night I made a vegie pasta and dumped a tin of tuna into his, but that’s hardly cooking two meals. Tonight we’re having sausages – meat for him, vegie for me. But otherwise he knows he will eat what he’s given. He knows the benefits of being vegetarian but he does like to get his meat when we go out. I’d encourage you to stop making yourself do so much!! It’s not good for you and negates a lot of the reasons you are vegetarian 🙂

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

As a meat eater, I wouldn’t be opposed to a vegetarian wedding. My only plea would be that not everything is covered in cheese. Above a handful of yummy veg options were recommended and 7 of her suggestions invoved cheese!! Ick.

Cheese is great, but in moderation!

I have to ask: why are you so set on having a vegetarian menu? You said you cook different meals in the house & your Fiance eats meat– so why are you thinking of having an all vegetarian meal? I just don’t get it! 

Anyway, its your day– you can choose the menu, but if your Fiance likes meat why can’t he enjoy the meal too & have some meat?!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@RecessionanistaBride

ha! I did not even realize they almost all had cheese! I do believe I have a cheese eating tapeworm inside me.

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Miss Pizzelle: lol thats funny! Despite what I wrote, I love cheese & those dishes sound totally delicious. I just don’t think I could handle a 5 course cheese menu! 😛

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

People get really rude about being “forced” to have a vegetarian meal, but given that you have strong feelings against meat I kind of think you should go for it.  I don’t eat beef (or any mammals).  My husband does.  But I didn’t want to serve it at our wedding…he was okay with that.  Yes he will occasionally (like 3 times in a year) make a steak on our grill, but he respects my views.  And if you are completely opposed to killing animals for food, then don’t have your wedding meal be about that.

Okay, I’m Indian so I really don’t understand why people make such a big deal about vegetarian food.  There are plenty of options that are not just steamed broccoli.  But regardless, whatever you do some people will find something to complain about…so I say let ’em deal and do what makes sense for you.  And though I do eat fish and poultry, people could really learn to get over their opposition to vegetarianism (it won’t kill you, heck, it’ll probably help you live longer). 

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

It wouldn’t bother me at all to have a vegetarian wedding meal. Just make sure you have a variety of options, and as said before, not everything covered in dairy/cheese!

Post # 29
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

As long as there was good food I’d be okay with it. Not just a sloppy fettuccini alfredo or some crappy bean dish, though. I’m imagining some very bad vegetarian entrees i’ve had in the past. If it’s done beautifully and yummy, I see no reason why anybody would even notice! Pasta con broccoli comes to mind when it’s done RIGHT. Since you’d be saving money by not serving meat, you could offer another dessert items, maybe. That would be pretty cool. =]

If you want a good steak, go to a steakhouse, IMO. A wedding usually isn’t the place for fabuloso meat, at least any i’ve been to. 

Good luck converting your Fiance to only meat, though, unless he shares your particular beliefs (besides health reasons). Sometimes people just like them some meat! I think mine would kill me, even though I try to stick to a mostly vegetarian diet with some lean proteins. I eat red meat very rarely and chicken maybe like, once a week. Turkey even less.

That being said, YOU shouldn’t have to cook his meat. He should cook his own!

By The Way, does seafood count as meat to you? I know some ‘vegetarians’ who only eat seafood

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I really really wanted a vegetarian wedding, even though I do eat some seafood. Part of the reason was totally selfish – I wanted to prove to our friends and family that meat wasn’t necessary to having a delicious meal.  A lot of them are really judgmental of me and when Fiance and I moved in together, at least 10 people asked him, all concerned, “but what are you going to eat?”  He lived and cooked on his own for 3 years before we moved in together, so I don’t know why people got all worried that I wouldn’t “let” him eat meat.  I cook most of the time, but he’ll often add some chicken or ground beef or bacon to his meal, and when we go out he almost always gets a meat dish. 

We finally compromised on having a vegetarian and seafood menu, and on having all vegetarian hors d’oeuvres, because I hate having to ask “what’s in this” of anything where it isn’t obvious, and I don’t want to not be able to eat any of the wonderful food that we are paying a lot for. 

As a guest, I’ve been to a vegetarian wedding before.  Since I was a vegetarian, it didn’t bug me at all, and none of the other guests complained.  As long as whatever you are serving is substantial enough that your guests are full, and you have a good source of protein (maybe a risotto with beans in it? or a vegetarian lasanga with tofu instead of ricotta), anyone who complains is just rude. 

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

As a meat eater, I personally wouldn’t be upset about a vegetarian reception because I don’t have to eat meat everyday or at every meal. I eat red meat maybe twice a week. And I love veggies, pasta’s, and salads and anything with cheese gets my vote. But I also live in farm country and I know a lot of people would be disappointed to not even have a chicken dish and tofu anything would not cut it.

I think it depends on your guests. You’ll need a variety of good dishes. Maybe you and your fiance can look through some vegetarian recipes together and come up with a good plan.

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