(Closed) Vegetarian wedding? What do you think?

posted 10 years ago in Food
Post # 62
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I wouldn’t be offended but I would not like the all-veggie dinner option. Just as you would not like a non-veggie option at a wedding you might attend. We are offering both options at our wedding because we don’t want to impose on our guests but to cater to them so that they can have enjoy themselves and have fun. Unhappy guests = unhappy party

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Bubblybride: Have you decided what you are going to do?

Post # 64
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Newbee

go veggie vegan for any possiblel lactose intolerants but, do it balanced and be creative. An all veggie or vegan meal cna be ultra gourmet. there’s this misconception that vegtarian emans laods of cheese or a lump fo tofu. tehre are many many dieets aorudn  the world that arent; emat eavy and are well amde. think about a multiculturaly based meal plan invovling veggie dishes from around the world. tibetan,e thiopian, mediteranean, japanese and then other that are meat based can have susbtitutes i n apc,e fot he emat. Think outside the three things on a plate cocnepot that so many American diets are brainwashed in to

if it were just a dietary preference I would say it’s negotiable but, if it’s an ethical, moral value of yours this is not something you can or shouild compromsuie on

I have provided music for plenty of weddings that were veggie or vegan. i even contractually require an alternative to meat dishes.

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should offer both options so everyone feels included. Maybe even consider a few vegan dishes if you have any vegan friends.

I eat meat, but I totally plan on accomidating all of my guests. = )

Post # 66
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Newbee

I would.  I know that a wedding is supposed to reflect the couples’ personalities, beliefs, etc., but in the end, you are throwing a party for your guests to celebrate with you, and the majority of people are not vegetarians.

The wedding is a celebration of your love as a couple, yes, but it wouldn’t be the big party if it weren’t for the guests – so I would want to cater to my guests as much as possible.  I know that most meat eaters I know would be upset that there were no meat at the reception…one of the most important parts of a reception is food, so having yummy dishes that make your guests happy is crucial.

I see a wedding as a thank you to the guests for loving the couple and supporting them in the beginning of their new life together – wouldn’t you want your thank you gift to your guests to make them as happy as possible?

Okay, I know this came off a tad dramatic and strange, but I am just very passionate about food and etiquette and making sure that guests are happy 🙂  I have been to a lot of weddings and I know the things people complain about…most of them are frivolous, but some of them I agree with (in this case, food complaints.)

Post # 67
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Newbee

yummy food does not=meat necessarily which is why i said go multicultural. There are many cultures where meat isn’t eaten or is low on the list of the dietary plan and they have amzing food and there’s plenty of room for etiquette here.There’s etiquette and then there’s cliche rules. If the food sucks it won’t matter whether the’s a slab of beef there. If the food is made with love and is interesting it does not have to center around the animal product on the plate

Consider this serving shellfish could insult jewish guests if they’re kosher, serving meat could insult hindi guests. Vegetarian is neutral. There’s the etiquette factor. Ultimatey, balance out B&G preference with guest preference but, no one is going to say where’s the beef if they’re fed well. It takes more creative caterers to give you an amazing vegetarian meal.

Post # 68
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@AJAzure-BVMedia, I think one of the biggest issues Bubbybride is having is that her Fiance eats meat. It’s not like they are both vegetarian and feel the same way about meat.

Post # 69
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Newbee

right and that’s a big factor in their future life together. but, she did say he thought about switching which probably means he’s not a hard core meat eater.

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Will the people that suggest serving both to please guests explain why meat is so important to the meal? I’m just curious. I’m a big meat fan, but I wouldn’t think twice about it being absent unless the food were really weird/bad. I agree with the poster that said vegetarian is so much more neutral than any other meal option and really should work for everyone unless its just not good food (which hopefully it will be good).

 

Post # 71
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Newbee

Bamboo – I can’t speak for everyone else, but I think the reason why meat is so important is because most people simply enjoy eating it.  I feel comfortable saying that majority of people in my life (family, friends, coworkers, etc…who are all meat eaters) would definitely have a problem with meat not being served at a wedding.  I’m not saying it’s right or wrong, but I know that would be the case.  Because of the fact that they really enjoy eating meat, and weddings are usually a place where you get really good meat, so people get excited over this 🙂 This may sound kind of silly but people get very excited over food haha

I should also say that I think couples should go with the majority when it comes to deciding what to serve their guests.  If the majority of your guests are vegetarian, then have a vegetarian wedding (I guess I wouldn’t have a problem going meatless if I knew that most of the people in attendance don’t eat meat.)  However, with the exception of certain cultures, vegetarians are usually in the vast minority — so why not try to please the higher amount of people by serving meat, while still offering a vegetarian option too?

 

My question for the original poster is why is it so important to her to have a vegetarian wedding?  I know that she is vegetarian, but probably most of her guests are not.

Post # 72
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Newbee

she said why

The reason I want a vegetarian wedding is primarily because I feel *really* strongly about not killing animals.

I try not to be judgmental about what other people eat.  Like I said, I cook meat for Fiance.  I’m having more and more of a problem with it as time wears on, though.  Truthfully, I don’t want to cook meat anymore, and I don’t want to serve it in my home.

 

 

..rather than be disappointed the meat eaters could keep an open mindand widen thier horizons. c’mon the vegetarian food won’t bite. the meat might if it’s rare lol

Post # 73
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Newbee

AJAzure-BV Media – oops, my mistake, thanks for bringing that to my attention!

Post # 74
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mmm but that’s the best way! Mooing on my plate!

Personally I still wouldn’t care as a guest what the heck is being served to me. Food is food and I’m at YOUR event, not mine and I’m there for you. Nobody’ll starve in the course of 5 hours. As long as you don’t start handing out anti-meat propaganda to your guests I really doubt anyone will care that much what you’re serving or really, why you’re serving it. You could serve chicken and people will be irritated you didn’t serve beef! You could serve beef and people will go “but i wanted fish!” You get what I’m saying.

I think if her Fiance wants meat they should offer it as a compromise, even if he is open to the idea of becoming vegetarian someday. Simply b/c weddings are for two people. We had corn AND mashed potatoes at our wedding b/c I wanted potatoes (he hates them) and he wanted corn (i thought it was double starch and pointless).l Whatever! I don’t eat a lot of meat anymore, but the protein is good for me and the kind of diet i need to be on to keep my endo from flaming up, but I can survive an evening.

That being said, just avoid lots of really gassy vegetables, teehee. I notice when i have a huge vegetarian vegetable plate I get bloated awfully fast! Kind of a mood killer.

Post # 75
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Newbee

lmao yes leave the music to thepros not to the methane brass band lol

There are ways to lower the gas quantity of a highly veggie meal.

 

personally I am not a fan of the political vegetrianism. i understand it but, fanatical and radical is just overboard in any category.

your wedding unless sponsored by PETA is not the place for political statements but, if something morally offends you to the core you should not have to compromise it. Lifestyle and personal philosophy runs as deep as religion.

Now there is the option of at least serving orgaqnic meat. For goodness sakes spare your guests all the antibiotics and hormones big industry meat is using. No sense in poisoning your guests more than their diet does already. a vegan diet ends up being more healthy in general. especially the current state of our industry processed food. So it’s not necessarily that meat is bad (it might be, it might not, there are two schools of thought although there are more maisntreamers coming over to the veggie side) the meat supply IS bad. So at least go organic for the sake of health and for the enviroment. If you can, ask your caterer to only use foods brought from around a 100 miles away. you’ll be more enviro -friendly with your wedding. Not to mention better quality, fresher food.

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I don’t think it would really bother me to not have a meat option.

That said, we’re serving a mix of things we really wanted to eat and a few dishes that I would never have picked out except for the fact that I know they will please Mr. Star’s side of the family.

I do agree that you should do what you want at your wedding and if it REALLY means that much to you, go for it. But food for your guests is one of the things that you might want to cave on because it’s unlikely you’ll eat much of it anyways and it’s really more for other people than you and your Fiance.

Good luck! We’ll all support you either way!

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