Post # 92
I agree that it’s all in how you present it. I have to be honest, as a meat lover I’d definately be groaning inside if I received an invitation offering Tofu and BOCA burgers, and would have a big lunch and not eat at the reception, which you already paid for so that is never good…
but if it was a make your own pasta action station like @SapphireSun suggested I wouldn’t mind at all!
Post # 93
@veganglam – ohhh, you’re making me hungry! There are so many wonderful mushroom dishes. I had Portobella Mignon at a restaurant the other day, and it was fabulous. It was made in butter, but could have easily been done in olive oil. It was served with heavenly grllled asparagus and risotto. Yum.
Post # 94
UPDATE: So I caved and we’re offering a chicken and a fish entree. It turns out that one of my bridesmaids and I are the only people attending who are vegetarians (we’re both vegan). I fought hard with Fiance, but in the end had to respect that this is his wedding, too. I’m not afraid of starting conflict with friends and family over my beliefs. But Fiance felt very strongly about the issue, and fighting about it was starting to erode our relationship.
Some of you may be thinking, “If he really loved and respected you, he would let you have a vegetarian wedding.” It’s not as simple as that. Relationships are complex, and he has already made a lot of compromises and changed his attitude far beyond what I would have expected when we met. A no-meat wedding is just too much for him. In the end, I am committed to marrying a man who may cause suffering to animals, but is responsible for saving thousands of human lives (sounds cheesy, but it’s true). And I have a lifetime to win him over to vegetarianism. 😉
Post # 95
@MissDallasCowboy: I don’t think anyone would have a Boca burger at their wedding, unless it was like a super-casual backyard reception and everyone was a vegetarian. And tofu is not just a cold, white block of nothingness. It can be made into chewy, flavorful things you’d be surprised at how much you could enjoy with a variety of marinades, sauces, and preparation techniques. See this makes me sad. Vegetarianism has gone so much more mainstream these past few years, cookbooks and good veg restaurants abound, and still people think we eat nothing but crap. We’re having a seated dinner because our wedding is formal and I love sitting down and having several courses of good food brought to me. Food is really my thing. My guests aren’t eating crap.
@lilyfaith: Your posts about food make me hungry too, haha! This isn’t good, now just coming to the bee might result in me gaining weight!
@BubblyBride: good luck on that lifetime quest. 😉 I’m on the same track! I’m really glad that it took about one minute of persuasion for Fiance to understand why I needed to have a vegan reception. I thought it would take a lot more than that! We have pretty divergent takes on veganism at this point, but he’s come around on a lot of aspects of it since we started dating (of course me dragging him all across the country to amazing vegetarian restaurants hasn’t hurt my case 😛 )
Post # 96
If your Fiance is a meat eater, I would suggest doing 1 meat option and 1 vegetarian option so that the meal represents both of you. Do you eat fish? Doing a seafood dish might be a good compromise!
Post # 97
I’m a life long vegetarian, but it was my Fiance who intially told the first caterer we spoke with that we wanted an all vegetarian wedding. I was completly little take aback since my Fiance is not a vegatrian (I secretly was wanting this but hadnt mentioned anything yet). When I asked him why he said “because, you are a vegetarian and everyone who knows you knows that is a major part of who you are, it would be really weird if you had meat at the wedding!”
So true. I was initally nervous about his gparents who are big meat lovers , but after causually bringing it up they acted as if that was a “no duh!” moment. People are coming to see your wedding, and while yes you are hosting a party for your guests, they want to be a part of a wedding that represents you, not a meat lovers pizza!
You can always go bridezilla on them and point them to the closest dining establishment (which almost positively is not all vegetarian) should they need a burger snack!
Post # 98
@veganglam…I’m sorry to have offended you, I was in no way implying that all vegan’s will be serving “crap” at their wedding, and I’m sure your sit down dinner will be delicious…I was just making the point that it’s all relative to what you serve, and vegan done right would be fine (not knowing the vegan diet pasta was my example of wedding delicious compared to boca burgers.) It is the same as if I wanted opinions on serving meat and you said you wouldn’t be excited if I was serving chicken fingers but that you would be excited if it was filet mignon.
And just for the record, I didn’t say, nor do I think, vegetarians and vegans eat nothing but crap.
Post # 99
@MissDallasCowboy–I didn’t mean to direct my whole comment at you, but I can see how it might have come off that way, sorry. I was mostly frustrated by the fact that most people don’t seem to recognize the variety and quality possible in vegetarian cooking despite the fact that it has become so mainstream as of late. Pasta is the sort of lazy fallback dish chosen by the average inept caterer (although, of course pasta can be done extremely well) when someone is looking to serve a vegetarian at a wedding or other event and it just gets really tiresome. There are infinite options and yet everyone just serves vegetarians some penne with a pile of vegetables sauteed in olive oil. Not to say that it isn’t nice to even HAVE an entree at a wedding, but it takes extremely little creativity to come up with something better than that.
And I think my aversion to the idea of a ‘pasta bar’ has everything to do with the fact that every Wednesday and Sunday is ‘pasta bar day’ at my college’s sole cafeteria and…it’s really, really bad. 😛
Post # 100
I have to agree with veganglam. Both me and my sister are 10-year+ vegetarians and we love to commiserate about the ubiquitious plain past with grilled vegetables. Why can’t we at least get tomato sauce? There’s never tomato sauce! Or pesto. Or anything tasty. I would MUCH rather have a plate of raw spinach and mushrooms than any standard lazy-caterer pasta option.
I try to be a “good vegetarian,” meaning I don’t preach, and I don’t complain, or make a fuss about whatever food option I get. So it’s weird to me that anyone would be super miffed about not getting dozens of selections of dishes at an all-vegetarian wedding, in case they didn’t like certain veggies. I never get even one alternate selection in the event that I don’t like plain pasta with grilled zucchini and carrots (not crazy about it, will eat it and not be upset about it) and I have never left a wedding to get something different, though I may have wanted to on a couple of ocassions. That seems a little rude to me. If the bride/groom found out where I was and why, I think I’d feel terrible.
I think one thing that can go a long way toward making your guests happy, whether you are having a totally vegetarian/vegan wedding or only have one or two special-order veggie meals, is telling people in advance exactly what they’ll be getting. It’s something I would REALLY appreciate at weddings I attend, because if I know I’m getting pasta-with-grilled-veg (though by now I’ve come to expect it), I will grab something on the way to the wedding or put a Lara bar in my purse. We will probably put something on our wedding website about the reception food. We’re having some unusual food options, served at kind of odd non-standard meal times, so I plan to be upfront about it so my guests know what they’re getting and can plan accordingly.
Post # 101
I honestly would really care if it was all vegetarian even though I’m not a vegetarian myself. But that is just because I’m fine with eating whatever. But there are those people that seriously eat meat constantly… I think for the sake of keeping the peace it would be a good idea to have at least one meat option… We’re having one meat option and one vegetarian option at our reception.