Post # 1
My fiance and I are Filipino but we are not getting married in church. We do want to do something to represent our culture so we will have godparents and plan to do the veil and cord ceremony. I’m really not familiar with how it all should flow since it will not be in church and so I was wondering if any bees had an example of how they will be doing it and when exactly during the ceremony should it be done?
Post # 3
Our ceremony was in a church, and while yours is not, I believe you could use the same general flow. Here is a link to my wedding video – we did the Filipino ceremonies, so you can see how we organized the ceremony.
Post # 4
My sister and brother in law had a nondenominational ceremony and did the veil, cord and coins. The ceremony is not technically part of a Catholic Mass so you can kind of stick it in anywhere in the middle, really, and have your officiant explain the meaning of the ritual and what is going to happen ("the veil sponsors will now place the veil on the couple..", "can the cord sponsors please come forward.." etc etc).
I’m going to be doing the same for mine. A great Presbyterian female minister officiated her ceremony.
Here was the order of her ceremony:
Statement of Marriage
Prayer and Declaration
Affirmation of the Families and the Congregation
Veil: The Veil symbolizes the union of the couple and their families
Cord: Symbolizes the infinity of the bond of marriage
Coins:Thirteen coins, or arras, symbolizes a pledge of dedication to share responsibilities for the welfare of the family **(notice this is a more equitable/feminist change my sis made to the coin ritual, which is usually about a man pledging his financial support to his family)
Prayer and Marriage Message
Exchange of Rings
Lighting of the Unity Candle
Charge and Blessing
(and then they jumped the broom because my bro in law is African American/Mexican American! it was a great ceremony!)
Post # 5
When did you remove the veil and cord in a secular ceremony?