Post # 1
I am feeling really low right now, and not really sure why. Here’s some background: I ordered my pronovias dress back in March, and finding out how much their veils cost, decided to look on e-bay. I found one the same weekend, bid a reasonable price for it and received it four days later. When it arrived I suddenly started to have niggling doubts. It is a chapel length mantilla veil, and the lace, while really beautiful, is maybe a little heavier than I thought and I was worried about it not working with my gown, which has some very fine embroidered/beaded lace applique. I was also worried about matching it with a lace bolero (which I really want) as I didn’t really like the heavy alencon lace boleros in store and wanted something a bit finer. Also, my dress has a cathedral length train, and I suddenly felt that I should either have gone for a shorter veil fingertip/waltz length, or a much longer cathedral lenght veil, as the chapel length veil would cut the train in half. The veil is also a square cut, and retrospectively I think I would have preferred a softer oval cut. Yet, the veil looks great with my face, and I lvoe the beading.
Fast forward to last week. I had been looking at other veils online, and a cathedral length pronovias veil came up on e-bay. Very similar to the one I had but with slightly more refined lace which looks like it would match my dress better. Now, I am going through a period of pretty heavy stress right now (final exam of my masters), and at 3am it seemed like a good idea to put a bid on this veil. I put the minimum reserve bid plus £5 (less than the first veil), thinking I might be outbid and I would just let fate run its course. Of course I was not outbid, and now have a second veil on the way. I should be ecstatic – the new veil seems everything I am looking for.
But I feel like I am ‘cheating’ on the first veil I bought. It’s so silly. My mum was pretty angry when she heard about the second veil, saying one useless piece of fabric was one thing, but two!… She is not so sentimental about wedding veils/dresses and constantly tells me how she just had a very plain short veil (her dress was also very plain – I always thought I would have a much nicer one for myself), how she just went into a shop and bought stuff off the rack (none of that appointment making malarky) and how her wedding cost pretty much the same as my dress/accessories and alterations (it was the 70s, so that would have been a lot more money). Now the first veil is sitting in my wardrobe, and I feel bad about rejecting it, even though I do love it – just not with my dress. The logical thing would be to put it up for sale, but I don’t have the heart to. And wearing both veils on the day (longer for ceremony, shorter for reception) would that be crazy? What do the bees think? How easy was it for you to decide on the veil? etc.
any help would be appreciated,
Love you all, x
Post # 3
I voted to try to sell veil 1, but on account of the length, not the design. The lace on veil 1 is close enough that people wouldn’t really notice the difference I think. However the length of veil 1 concerns me for the same reasons you gave, and you’re right about the veil cutting off the train half way. You’ll either need a cathedral that goes just past the train, or maybe a fingertip length. Are you sure that veil 2 is the length you need?
As far as sentimental value, I think the veil has as much value as the dress, and any other accessory that contributes to your wedding day look. Especially if your father will be lifting the veil at the end of the aisle for you, that’s a classic emotional moment, and it makes the significance of the veil that much more important to you. So don’t let your mom tell you the veil doesn’t mean anything.
I wouldn’t try to wear both veils in the same day. In fact, if I were you I wouldn’t wear any veil that touches the floor at my reception, because I want the ability to dance at my party! Just sell veil 1, or if you really want to, then keep it as a keepsake. If you decide to sell it, I’m sure it won’t hold a grudge against you for cheating… veils don’t care about that stuff I promise. 😉
Post # 4
Wow, thank you, I am starting to feel a little better already. Everyone around me thinks I am just Bridezilla-ing away to myself, fretting about trains being cut off etc. It’s soooo good to know other people care bout that stuff too! The second one is cathedral lenght, so should just come past the train nicely.
Post # 5
You are definitely not Bridezilla-ing anything! This is a very valid concern in my book…and I was one of those people who never even LIKED veils! I voted to sell the first one, also because of the length issue. You are 100% correct that it would fall awkwardly in the middle of your train, and while your family may not notice…YOU will! And that’s what’s important. You want to feel beautiful on that day, and not have to worry about any little nagging details. Have you tried them both on with your dress? Is this possible? Maybe if you could post some pictures and we could give you some direct feedback on the appearance of the veil with the dress. If not, then I say go with your instincts and sell the first veil!
Post # 6
Update: – The new veil (No 2) arrived today and I absolutely love it. Whil the first was amazing, this one is so stunning and I think the perfect length to match my gown. I think I might sell veil No 1 after the first fitting, just to make sure. Thanks all you bees for your help – all this wedding stuff is like some crazy rollercoaster…
Post # 8
lemme know if you sell it – im looking for a chapel length mantilla LOL
and get what you love and wear what you love. heck some brides have 2-3 dresses. it takes a while to make it all work.
so be happy with your choices and you wont have regrets. 🙂
Post # 9
@ spaganya – I will definitely get in touch if I decide to sell the veil. thanks for your words of encouragement…