(Closed) Veil or no Veil??

posted 4 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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blackraine04 :  What do you want to do? It doesn’t matter if you’re an encore bride, if you want to wear a veil you should go for it! But by no means feel pressured to wear one either.

The original tradition and symbolism behind veils is gross and outdated anyways, I am wearing one because it makes me feel bridal and it looks pretty. I am a first time bride but not a virgin so technically I shouldn’t be allowed to wear one either 😉 

Veils covering the hair and face became a symbolic reference to the virginity of the bride thereafter. A bride may wear the face veil through the ceremony. Then either her father lifts the veil, presenting the bride to her groom, or the groom lifts the veil to symbolically consummate the marriage.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I struggled with this too, especially since I’m a young widow and have a two year old son.  I worried A LOT that it wouldn’t be appropriate, but everything I read said it was just fine to wear a veil the second time around.  So I did – and a long veil at that!  I still don’t know if it was the right decision though …. in the moment, it made me feel like a bride and that made me happy 🙂  After all, this was OUR first wedding together, and I wanted my groom to see me all shiny and new as a BRIDE, which he did!  And it was pretty darn special!

But honestly, if I had it to do over, I would probably skip it.  I’m going to follow this post because I’m curious what others have to say … even 9 months post-wedding, I still worry I made the wrong decision and about what people might have thought!  UGH!

Karen and Patrick-229

 

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I am an encore bride and I am definitely wearing a veil. I actually love my veil more than my dress and did not have that “bridal” moment until I put on the veil. I did not wear a veil or even a wedding gown for number one and I am really enjoying the bridal feeling this time around. If you want one, go for it! At least try some on to see how you feel! You are a bride whether you wear one or not, just try them on and figure out what feels right to you.

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Bumble bee

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blackraine04 :  Thank you for the reassurance!  I have suffered from anxiety since my first husband’s death and tend to overthink everything.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

You could always order an inexpensive veil from Amazon and if you hate the idea when you put on, then return it. If you do love it, maybe when you go in for your fitting you could try on something more matched to the dress. Also, lots of folks seemed to have good luck ordering from Etsy. If you do a free returns veil from Amazon at least you will be able to say you gave it a go – especially since you seem to still be questioning the choice to go without. Love the hair choice btw!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

What does a veil even symbolise these days? Nothing, in my opinion (that’s a good thing, the whole ‘pure bride’ thing is a bit icky). It’s just an optional pretty accessory. I can’t imagine why anyone would judge a second time bride for wearing one (and if they do, f them!) On the flip side, not wearing one doesn’t make you not bridal. I didn’t wear one and I was perfectly bridal. So, wear one if you personally want to and don’t if you don’t. Simple! 

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