(Closed) veil under chuppah question

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
79 posts
Worker bee

You’ll have to excuse me because I don’t actually remember the Hebrew names of the different events, but at least for a conservative ceremony if the bride is wearing a blusher it actually gets pulled back right before the ceremony during the ketubah signing.  It has to do with the story of Rachel (I think) and the idea that the groom is “double checking” that he is getting the right bride.

Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i would ask your rabbi, i’ve seen it done a few ways. i didn’t like my blusher, and only bought it for religious reasons. we did the unveiling before the ceremony after the ketubah sighning and then my rabbi said i could take the blusher off.

Post # 5
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I believe it is actually the other way around.  The ‘bedeken’ is the veiling ceremony that occurs after the ketubah signing.  The bride and groom see one another for the ketubah signing where he ensures that he is marrying the right woman.  He then lowers her veil (blusher) which she wears through the ceremony.  It is then lifted towards the end of the ceremony.  The idea is that he is marrying her for her inner beauty, not her outer beauty.

You can check with your rabbi to see what he/she usually does.

Post # 6
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i second EK……

Post # 7
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

I think it largely depends on what your rabbi wants, as well as what you like.  We did the customary practice of putting the veil down during the bedecken.  I wore the veil down for most of the ceremony (drinking wine with a veil is pretty hilarious), and my husband lifted up the veil at the end for the kiss.

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