(Closed) Vendor contract woes: am I being too pushy?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@MissFireFlower:  I don’t think it’s pushy…if they agreed, it should all be written out in the contract.  

Post # 4
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nope.  Totally agree.  I would want it in the contract.  If not, are you going to try to find somewhere else, or lose the extra hour and appetizers?

Post # 5
1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

They probably just forgot.  Just ask them for a new contract.

Post # 6
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Dudette, this venue is going to be a nightmare for you. I can feel it in my bones. Every thing you’ve posted has made me worried that this venue isn’t going to meet your needs with all the restrictions on food, what can be put on grass, how it has to be served (or not served) etc.

You certainly can call them, but my gut is telling me that this place will be beautiful but a nightmare.

If your Fiance is pushing for somewhere else, plus everything else, I’d be really leaning towards going somewhere that is going to be more reception friendly.

Post # 7
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MissFireFlower:  i have a similar issue. my venue has repeatedly told me that providing i use their entertainment services for the ceremony and the dinner, i can bring in my own band. then in the contract it stated “no outside musicians allowed”.  venue lady says its fine – but im not signing it unless its amended or things could go very wrong

you were definitely right to try to talk to them – if you dont ask, you dont know

Post # 9
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Get it in writing or find another venue.  It sounds like you don’t have a signed contract anyway at this point.  Refuse the contract unless it contains the terms you discussed.  May need to print it out and have the owner add the additional terms and sign off on them.

Post # 11
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not pushy, I would definitely want that in writing

Post # 12
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissFireFlower:  🙁 I feel for you!! I have to say, trust your gut though. Better to be disappointed now than pulling your hair out and disappointed later. It sucks – boo!

Are there any arboretums or anything in the area? Greenhouses?

Post # 13
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Good contracts = Happy Customers.

Get as much as you can in writing, if they refuse, go somewhere else.

Post # 14
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh, and I know this won’t make you feel better now, but maybe it will help? It has helped me with things, because I am OBSESSED with the look & feel of my venue/decor (taking a crappy venue and dressing it up).

What you will remember is not how things LOOK, but how they feel. If you’re stressed about where you can put tables and what food you can serve, even in the most beautiful garden, you won’t have great memories. If you’re in a slightly less beautiful, but very accommodating and helpful, setting – you’ll have awesome memories.

That’s what I keep telling myself! The look of the place absolutely does impact how you feel about the day, but a stressful vendor situation can wipe all that beauty out in a heartbeat.

Post # 15
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@NAvery:  Agreed.

However, if you really have your heart set on this site for the ceremony, count on that and do yourself a favor and find a separate reception site.

Post # 16
1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You’re not being pushy at all. Get it in writing otherwise he has no obligation to actually let you do it.

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