Post # 1
How did you all ask your vendors if they would be staying for dinner? Should they be given formal invitations with everyone else? I know my photogs will need to eat, and my DJ. Who I don’t know about is the guitarist for the ceremony and the officiant. I don’t know either well but I don’t want to tell them they have to leave after each performing a service for the ceremony. But if they would plan to stay, I’d need to know in advance to account for their (and their spouses) dinners. In what way do I go about asking? Thanks.
Post # 3
Your contract may tell you whether they require a meal or not; in addition, you can also ask them if they will be needing one or if they would like to stay. Just be direct. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
If you are hiring your officiant and guitarist in an official manner, with contract, payment, etc., then they are strictly vendors and will do their job and leave. You really only have to feed the photog/videographer and DJ!
Post # 5
Generally you treat your officiant as a guest rather than a vendor; therefore you send them (and their spouse) an actual invitation and they do attend both the wedding and the reception. Of course this originated in the day when your officiant was likely to be your pastor, and therefore someone you had an actual relationship with – or at least someone who might deserve to be treated with a little more respect than your DJ. The pastor from our church wasn’t available for our wedding, so he referred us to a retired pastor – we did invite him and his wife to both the reception and the rehearsal dinner. Of course, since he also did our premarital counseling, and developed a ceremony just for us, we spent hours with him over the several months before our wedding and got to know him and his wife quite well.
My sister had an officiant who was more like a vendor – in fact, he "came with" the chapel. The service was not very personal – quite standard, in fact. I don’t think that she invited him to the reception.
It’s not necessary to invite the ceremony musician to the reception, or to feed them – unless perhaps they are a friend of yours, rather than strictly a vendor. Since their part of the evening takes maybe an hour at the most, they shouldn’t be there long enough to interfere with their normal dinner.
Post # 6
the only vendor we’re feeding is our photographers. we are going to ask them to actually have dinner with all the other guests instead of eating separately. we love them!