(Closed) Vendor Etiquette- Is this ok?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, because babies pretty much take care of themselves:/ I would be mad too! I wouldn’t allow them to bring their baby. I think your concerns are right on the money.

Post # 4
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That seems odd to me… my photographer and her husband (the 2nd shooter) are looking to adopt.. soon, which I am so excited for them because she is also a good co-worker of mine.  But she has already expressed to me that if they were to have the adoption by our wedding, both sets of their parents are close by so it would be easy baby-sitting!

I would not want my photographer paying more attention to their child than my photos (which sounds terrible, because I love kids, but I am paying a good amount!!), when they are getting paid professionally.

Post # 5
8527 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@jj02ss:  Oh my goodness, they’ve really put you in an awkward position. It will be impossible for them to concentrate on your photos. I’m shocked actually, that they think this is a good idea. I would be concerned about liability — what if they WERE concentrating on your photos and something happened to the baby?

Post # 6
4769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

ugh.  It is not cool for them to bring a baby to the job but then agin if she breast feeds but if you’re paying for them to be there the whole weekend then no.  Not sure what you should do.

Post # 7
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not ok! I would tell them to bring a sitter on their dime.

Post # 8
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Ummmmm this is so not cool. You can’t just bring your kid to work! There’s no way they would be able to do a proper job if it was there.

Post # 9
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Unprofessional! My first photographer wanted me to pay for her, her husband (second shooter), and her daughter to fly to my Destination Wedding. Not cool!

There is no way they can work properly with the baby there. There is so much they would miss, not to mention it just is not professional.

Post # 10
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@jj02ss:  that doesnt sound particularly professional to me. 

i could maybe see it if they advertise as one main shooter,one assistant (rather than 2 main shooters) so they could pass the parcel (or rather baby)so one cares for baby a bit while the other works

if they charged a low price i could see it more maybe?

Post # 11
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Very unprofessional! Did you pay for two photographers or is it a bonus deal? Is this a real professional or friendor? I would have a meeting ASAP to discuss logistics and issues such as how they plan to handle a fussy/crying baby and diaper changes. I feel they would end up neglecting your wedding or their baby. Ick.

Post # 12
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Tell them no!

Post # 13
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yikes, I would kindly deny the offer to bring the baby. They can’t neglect it and it would certainly be a distraction to their ability to work. Maybe they could find a babysitter? Would you be able to get a refund and find another photographer if worst comes to worst?

Post # 14
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This is very unprofessional!  I do not think you are wrong at all to think so.  A seven month old baby requires a lot of care and attention, and what if it starts to cry/fuss just as a special moment is happening during your wedding? My opinion is that the vast majority of people cannot bring their baby to work, so why should they be able to?  Sit down and express your concerns- they should be able to find a babysitter for the day.  Good luck!

Post # 16
4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have a 16 month old boy and he has always required a lot of attention since day 1! I couldn’t imagine trying to work with him around- I just don’t think it’s possible. 

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