Post # 1
Okay I know the title can be a bit decieving but here’s the quick story.
My photographer is a very good and old friend of mine, she’s invited to the wedding not only as a vendor but as my guest as well. I’m letting her bring a date if she so chooses becasue of this.
Question is: She’s going to have an assistant with her that day who I don’t know and never met. Should I allow her to bring a date as well? Or treat her like a normal vendor and not allow it.
My photo/friend will have a seat at a table for her – not be forced to eat elsewhere, and I planned to seat her assitant with her as well.
Should I ask my photog/friend if the assistant is really needed after the wedding and photos and just have her head home? Would this be rude as you generally feed the vendors, don’t you?
Post # 3
I’d invite friend + guest + assistant (no guest)
Friend is there as both a professional and a guest, so should be treated like both. Assistant is only there as a professional.
I would not ask the assistant to go home – if the photographer was not your friend, you wouldn’t even think about this, so leave the assistant in the "professional" category, and let photog/assistant do whatever they would normally do – which sounds like attend + eat at the reception
Post # 4
In general, if you get a free assistant, I’d take it. Your photos will turn out better with someone helping with the lighting, etc. The assistant might also take extra photos and act as a free second photographer.
If you problems with space, I would explain that you’re limited on space, and that you can only allow her to bring two people on her side..
Post # 5
So are neither your photographer or the assistant actually "working" during the reception? You aren’t having pictures of your cake cutting, toasts, first dance, garter toss, etc? Just asking because talking with my photographers, they sound as if they expect to be working throughout the reception (except for a break to eat, which we have arranged, don’t panic Miss Penguin!)
It’s certainly a nice idea to allow a date, but if they are being expected to work those hours it seems like a conflict of interest. Either the job doesn’t get done, or the date sits alone…
I do think that if vendors aren’t required after some point, they usually leave. For instance, the reception musicians don’t show up until they need to set up. The ceremony musicians leave after they are done playing. I have talked to all our vendors, and the only ones concerned about eating are those who will be there for the duration. So if your photographer actually puts away her camera and doesn’t work any more after the wedding, you can either transition her to being a guest, or (in the case of the assistant) let her go. Maybe just ask your photographer friend what she things, or to discuss with her assistant. I would think that if the assistant isn’t a friend, that she might rather go home and put her feet up.
Post # 6
No guest for the assistant. The assistant is there to work for your friend.
Your photographer will determine how long they stay. Put the assistant at the table with your photographer just like you said and your good to go.
Post # 7
Suzanno – The photog will be working, though we’re still unclear as to how much (obviously cake cutting, first dance…and so on) She won’t be hard working through out the whole thing, just the needed shots and then I hope she puts down the cameras and cuts up the dance floor with me!
Post # 8
No guest for the assistant because she is there strictly to work. If she has fun doing her job all the better. You also want her at the reception. Thise will free up your friend/photog to party a bit also. The assistant can continue to take candids after all of the major events are done and your friend can dance with her date or mingle or take pictures as she likes and you will still get the coverage needed.
Post # 9
Good idea Tberry! I didn’t even think of that.
5 point for you! HIGH FIVE!
Post # 10
Hi Sweeney, I’ve read a lot of your posts here and finally feel that I can contribute.
As a professional photographer myself, I would never allow an assistant photographer to bring a guest. An assistant is there to assist me in getting the photographs I need and to assist me with anything I need. I am the one who was hired by the bride to shoot the wedding because she likes me and my photography. When someone assists me, it’s because they want to learn and grow as a photographer themselves so they can do their own thing one day. They don’t need distractions in my opinion.
For what it’s worth though, I do require that my assistant be provided a meal as well.
With that said, even a primary photographer is extremely lucky to be able to bring a date. You’re now paying for 3 additional meals (which is added to the total cost of your budget for photography ). Every once in a while, I see photographers bring a guest along to the reception. Often times, the guest looks lonely but some spouses enjoy coming and watching their significant other work so I can understand it occassionally since wedding photography is a weekend job and most spouses work weekdays which leaves virtually no time together.
Post # 11
Why would the assistant bring a guest if they don’t know you? They would be there for the work.
Post # 12
I think candids during the reception are a great idea, and if you can arrange for the assistant to do that I’m sure you will be really happy to have those pictures. We are going to have our photographers do candids all through the reception, and I’m betting they will be some of our favorite memories of the event.
Post # 13
A friend of mine was a photographer at a informal wedding. She never sat down, so an assistant would let her enjoy your wedding a little more. She’s still not going to get to be a full guest, but at least someone will be there to back her up. Be on the watch for family and friends who see an idle camera as opportunity to get all the shots they think should be taken.