Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
My FH and I are struggling a bit – mainly because we worry that we’re wasting everyone’s time when we arrange meetings with vendors (e.g. photographers) when we might not use them. I was planning to meet with three of the four photographers we’ve narrowed it down to (one I knew in High School, so I’m not worried about meeting her so much), but having met one so far who was so nice, I feel bad meeting other people – if they’re all nice, how to I pick? But also, it feels like they’re putting a lot of time into coming to meet us, for them to not get anything back.
Hooowww do I get over this? I know this is business, and really isn’t any different from when we visited all the venues, but it feels more personal because it’s one-to-one this time!
Anyone else suffered from this?
Post # 3
@chronicwhimsy: I felt this way with florists. One thing to remember….these vendors know the drill. they know they aren’t the only show in town. I always prefaced my conversations to vendors with “Hi, my name is birdi and I’m looking to get a quote for my June wedding etc…
The only person whose time you need to be concerned about wasting is your own:)
Post # 4
Just let them know oyu’re looking for a quote and to find out more information about them/their business. As long as you’re up front that you’re still in the “Shopping around” stage, the vendors should understand. Just don’t lead them on.
I felt really bad about 1 Venue we visited because my Fiance kept telling them they were awesome and got X stars and blah blah blah…. we ended up turning them down due to lack of sound proofing between the rooms. But I felt SO BAD because he made them believe they were going to get our business…. None of the others I felt bad leaving because I made sure they knew I was looking around and didn’t let on one way or another 🙂
Post # 5
I felt this way when canvassing people for quotes, but I agree with PPs – be clear that you’re still in the “shopping around/comparing quotes” phase, most people are fine with it.
You’ll always get some people who are funny… when looking for photographer, I had one guy who refused to give me any general details at all via email, he’d only mail a copy of his packages once we’d given him our specific wedding date & he checked if he was free (this was over 2yrs out from wedding date after I’d mentioned month & year in my intro email. The majority of engagements in my area are like a yr)
Flipside, I got one chick whose stuff was way out of my league. I replied thanking her for her time but was straight – her work was beautiful but beyond our budget. She replied so thankful that I’d even bothered to reply to her.
Post # 6
i felt this way about caterers! But got over it when I realized that I’m paying for their service and they need to sell it in order to get the gig.
Post # 7
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: Yes! Who expects to be hired immediately? everyone shops around to compare:)
Post # 8
I meet with clients all the time… some book then and there, and some choose another photographer. That’s life. What I try to do is meet with clients only close to my house… to avoid less wasted time and gas if they don’t book me. Most people don’t mind meeting close to where I live…
But we understand brides have to shop around. I’ve been lucky enough to get lots of bookings on the first meeting, but when I don’t, I’ve only spent about 2 hours with potential clients. It’s just time we have to absorb.
Post # 9
Would you walk into a house and buy it just because you felt guilty that the realtor had spent their time helping you? Nah, so don’t feel guilty here 🙂 You’re not signing contracts with people and then continually backing out, you’re just shopping around. It’s part of the business and vendors understand that.
Post # 10
Anytime you meet a vendor they are making a choice to risk some of their time on the off chance that you will hire them. Just as you too are potentially wasting your time meeting them. After all you may not like them, or they may book someone else on the same date if someone hires them before you make a decision. It’s a two way street.
Post # 11
Anytime a vendor meets with a client they’re taking a chance of meeting with someone who won’t book. That’s just part of doing business. However, I think it’s very nice of you to be considerate of that.
My best suggestion would be to only meet with those who you are seriously considering booking. I’ve had cases where I’ve met with clients only to find out they met with 5 other photographers as well. To me, that shows that they aren’t that serious (or are more price shopping). It also is a serious waste of time if they’re only price shopping, because I could have given them all that info via email. In my area we’re fairly unusual in that most of us photographers are friends. We actually get together every week with each other, so we always generally know when we’re getting the same inquires.