(Closed) Vendor just called me dear….

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I ran into that quite a bit since I was planning “down south”.  While it’s never something I appreciate, I’ve at least grown to see it as something many people (especially men) don’t even realize they say.  I have a co-worker who is in his early 60’s who says it all the time…even though he’s making an pointed effort not to after someone mentioned it to him.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

haha no, not professional, but sometimes old people act that way, like they’re your grandparents… perhaps he’s old? 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

eh, i think it’s a regional thing? i never had never heard someone call me that, but ever since moving where i am now (fl) everyone addresses people that way.  i agree it’s a little weird…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think sometimes in the wedding world people use terms of endearment more often, at least from what I’ve experienced!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I second jingle, suddenly everyoone is happy for you and much more informal in the world of wedding planning as compared to event planning. That said, I used to work with an older British gentleman who always called me dear. I just get over it because, for me, it’s not worth creating an issue out of and if people feel close enough to use dear, then they will hopefully be on your side when you need assistance.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah that’s pretty normal from old men! “dear” and “hon” and when I was in the UK, everybody called me “love”

I’m not a big fan of words like that coming from strangers, but i’m not exactly about to correct the gentleman bagging my groceries.

Post # 10
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Worker bee

It doesn’t usually bother me.  It’s not intended to be condescending, in most instances.  My grandparents friends call me “dear”, “gal”, or “lady”, and its never meant disrespectfully.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I know in Texas you hear that a lot- especially at restaurants!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I can see how that would bother you. I have felt especially sensitive to things like that being a young bride, but I’m sure he didn’t mean it to be offensive.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

at least it wasn’t “babe”

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Heh, everyone does that around here. “dear,” “sweetie,” “honey,” “darling,” – I guess it doesn’t bother me. 🙂

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