(Closed) Vendor Meals- Are they rude??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We haven’t really thought about it yet but I suspect if we get an option to give vendors a cheaper option then we will take it, as they aren’t friends or family with whom we want to share our special day and we are paying them for their services anyway. I would say your $25 vendor meal would be fine. Not rude, just common sense. Perhaps it is a regional thing though, and in some areas considered rude?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never heard that vendor meals are rude.  I fully intend on talking to my reception venue about our options for feeding our vendors.  There is no way I would pay the same “per head” fee that we are paying for our guests, because that obviously includes open bar, hors devours and cake, which doesn’t need to be eaten by our vendors anyway.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I saw an idea on a thread once about asking the service providers if they’d rather have a meal or get the money for the meal. Thought it sounded smart. If I worked at a lot of weddings, I’d rather have money and pack a PB&J than yet another catered meal.

That said, I didn’t ask about vendor meals. I gave them the normal options for the rest of our guests. But then I only have 3 service providers attending.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it is rude at all. Vendors expect vendor meals and this is a typical meal that they usually get and the price is perfect. I have even had vendors mention the meals that they ate at wedding to me and mostly they consited of chicken fingers.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve heard of some vendor meals being a cold sandwich or something really simple and not filling.  If you are having a hot meal for them, a vendor meal sounds fine to me.  If it’s a PB&J sandwich with some carrot sticks… maybe not so much.  A full vendor is a happy vendor and will provide better service than someone who is hungry all night 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’s appropriate to provide food for your vendors since they might not be able to get away to get a fast food meal (and if I were working in that kind of job I wouldn’t want to eat fast food every day for health and weight reasons).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

its just good sense to feed your vendors (dj, photog, videog) because if their blood sugar level drops, so does your quality of work! lol

i plan on getting our vendor’s boxed lunch type dinners from Panera (or similar sandwich restaurant) which will probably cost about $10 each. easy thing to do to make sure that they are hydrated and satiated for my big day.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I dont think its rude at all I think its actually very considerate!  I mean you dont have to feed them!  We are providing ours with a meal.  They get the same meal as our guests!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we are feeding our vendors the same as any other guest.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

hm, i never even thought of that!  i guess if you are having expensive catering, i wouldn’t expect as a vendor to eat the same as the people that are closest to you in your life.  you do, however, have to feed them.  why not ask the vendors directly if it is ok with them?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t see anything wrong with vendor meals, they are there to work, not eat steak and drink.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@LGenz – the issue for me is the fact that you have hired the person/people for an extensive number of hours, and you basically aren’t going to give them a break.  If I work for 8 hours at my place of employment I get a 1/2 hour lunch plus 2 fifteen minute breaks.  I would be really upset if my photographer (for example) decided to take a 1/2 lunch break so s/he could go find some decent dinner.  Yes, the person is there to work, but I know that I want to be accommodating towards them as well. 

I’m actually kind of curious – are there labor laws surrounding people who own their own business in the service industry?  

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My photographer is getting a vendor meal from our venue and will be eating during our seated dinner, I just won’t be counting him as part of our head count which would include drinks/food/cake.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was planning to reserve a table for my vendors in a corner of our venue and have them fed the same thing that everyone else will be fed.  The per-head rate for all our adult guests will be roughly $19, and they never mentioned anything about discounted vendor meals and I never knew to ask about it.

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