(Closed) Vendor meals–rude?

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 76
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

It’s not rude to offer them the boxed meal. Is it what they would want? Probably not, but it’s your wedding so you do what you want to do. 

I worked a wedding two weeks ago and we had just started serving guests when the jazz band bursts through the kitchen demanding they be fed because it was in their contract. We told them to hold on because we were serving guests first, but they would not leave us alone until we served them. Their behavior was awful. I just couldn’t understand how a vendor would think they were more important than wedding guests. 

The only played 3-4 songs the entire night too, so it’s not like they were exerting themselves. I can understand how tired a DJ, photographer, and videographer would be though. 

Post # 77
2419 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t feel right about feeding my vendors a boxed sandwich lunch (which makes me think of what you’d give a child on a school field trip) while everyone else chowed down on filet mignon or lobster, and ate off proper dishes.  

Post # 78
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

lula0508 :  Wow, times have changed! Vendor meals?

Way back in the day I worked for a high end wedding photographer and we aaaaalways ate the same meal as the guests, and we sat with them, too. We were on our feet ALL DAY. And we called it combat photography. The bride’s late? Okay, then we have to rush to the next venue to take pix of the groom, but we still have to get good pix and pretend like we didn’t just get screwed out of 20 minutes. Drunk family members at the reception, yet you want a group photo of every guest? Yeah, not easy. And on and on and on. Wedding photographers EARN their money and their meal.

Post # 79
409 posts
Helper bee

I fed all of my vendors the same meal as my guests. I know some vendors will state in their contracts that they must be given the same meal as everyone else – so double check your contracts as well.

Post # 80
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We gave our vendors the guest meal and had a nice table for them to sit at among the guest tables. These were the people I was entrusting with my forever wedding photos and to facilitate the evening (DJ). They deserve(d) to be treated well. Yes, you pay them for their service, but I think it’s common courtesy to give them a decent meal when they are busting their buns to make your day special.

Post # 81
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

lula0508 :  Our vendor meals (we had to pay for 8 of them) were the same meals that we served to our guests and they were half of the cost.

Post # 82
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

Astra :  Diddo

Post # 83
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I had no problem whatsoever giving my vendors a box lunch.  I was happy to feed them, but I also think that a box lunch is just fine.  Hell, when I worked in the corporate world and we had lunch meetings, most of the time a box lunch is exactly what we got as well.  I can tell that a lot of Bees are very proud of themselves for giving their vendors hot meals, and truly, good for them.  But I had 14 vendors to feed (including a 10 piece band and their helpers), and that simply wasn’t going to happen.   And I am 100% comfortable with that.

Post # 84
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

$100 doesn’t break the bank, and if you treat people right, they’ll treat you right. I’m only ever going to have one wedding, so personally, I’d like my once-in-a-lifetime contractors to feel comfortable and appreciated while they’re doing their (irreplaceable!) work!

Post # 85
209 posts
Helper bee

We got our vendors the same meal at both meals they attended (we had a lunch and then a reception later.)  The price came out to about $200 for two photogs and our day of coordinator.  It wasn’t even a thought that we wouldn’t do it.

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