Post # 1
In the contract i signed for my DJ, it specifically said that a vendor meal is not required. It also mentioned that the DJ will glady accept it, so i figured, “whatever, he’ll get a vendor meal and that’s that”. I want my vendors to be happy and well fed.
I get an email today thanking me for the offer of the vendor meal. He then has the nerve to ask if his assistent (Of who I had never heard until that moment), could have a meal too? He said he will be helping with set up and take down. So he doesn’t even have to be there at all!
Maybe I’m overreacting, I just thought it was kinda rude. How should I respond? I don’t want to be rude, but I don’t feel like I need to feed yet another person. GAH!
Post # 3
@Loveylove13: To be honest I think it was nice of him to ask rather than demand, as most vendors do. It is customary to feed your vendors considering they are typically working through meal time…they have to eat right?
Feed the assistant. Its a bit rude to make him sit and watch his boss eat.
Post # 4
I saw somewhere that people provided pizza as a vendor meal so check with your venue and then just order pizza for everyone.
Post # 5
@Loveylove13: It was either that or his assistant doesn’t eat or he has to pay for his own. Look at it this way, the assistant is staying back for take down.
Post # 6
I don’t mind paying for vendor meals and think it’s fair to do so but yes, I thought it was rude. Only because he initially said he DIDN’T need a meal. To then bring up an assistant who was NOT mentioned previously I’d be annoyed. Budgeting for weddings is stressful and any unexpected expense is annoying so yea- he was rude.
ETA- I wouldn’t not hire him though, I’d probably tactfully let him know though that I wished he had mentioned an assistant earlier,
Post # 7
I dont think he is being rude.
Post # 8
I don’t really think that’s being rude.
If I were in his position my line of thought would be “Oh they are providing meals, great! but they didn’t realize I was bringing my assistant, I better ask them about that.”
Ya know? It would be awkward to eat a free meal infront of my own assistant.
Post # 9
I dont think he’s being rude. Honestly the guy would probably feel sorry for his assistant if he had something to eat and the other guy didnt.
Post # 10
At least he mentioned it. My DJ made it sound like it was just him but he had an assistant there the whole night. This wasn’t a problem because we had allocated a lot to vendor meals (so we overestimated the number of guests attending).
I agree that it’s not a good thing to find out that you need to provide two meals when the intitial contract stated no meals are necessary, but again, at least he mentioned it.
Post # 11
I don’t think he ewas being rude. He did just ask which was nice of him. You could just politely ask about the time frame the assistant would be there or say something like the food would be cold etc if you don’t want to pay for it.