(Closed) Vendor Rejection or Smart Business Practice?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Something kinda like this happened to us right outta the gate.  We met with a married couple who were photographers.  She handled the money, he did the pictures.  Anyway, we met with them, we really liked their work but they mentioned that they wouldn’t discuss the contract with a 3rd party.  Well that was a problem because it would be my father paying.  So he called them to negotiate the price, not to sign the contract, we’d still do that, the money would look as if it was coming from us.  Well, they never got back to my dad and later sent me a long nasty email about how they won’t bother speaking to someone who had never seen their work, that they won’t be providing the service for us because we obviously don’t trust them and that they are a business that won’t negotiate.  Clearly they were a little crazy.  I didn’t realize having my dad call was gonna set them off that bad, jeez!

I don’t think its a smart business practice.  I understand wanting to make the most money on a job as possible but who’s to say, especially in this economy, that she’ll get another wedding, one that’s willing to pay more.  I’d think you’d want to accomodate the potential clients that are actually in the office before you concern yourself with imaginary ones lol.  I realized you have to maintain some, I guess, integrity regarding the prices but still.  Sounds like her ego got in her way.  Good thing you didn’t like her anyway, can you imagine how horrible it could of turned out?  Yikes

Post # 4
1011 posts
Bumble bee

My initial photog fell through, so I was in search of a photog.  I made contact with 3 more.  I had a great phone conversation with one (about 40 minutes) and we were planning on a face to face meeting.  Then I met with another photog who had beautiful work, and was nice, but it was just not what I was looking for.  She was pleasant, but we didn’t click–the meeting lasted less than 30 minutes.  Then I met with the third photog the next day.  OMG!  I was at her studio for almost 2 hours just getting to know her, she me, and looking at her work.  We definitely clicked and she was excited about some of the things I wanted to do (it showed in our email correspondence too).  so, then I was torn between the photog I had talked to on the phone (much cheaper) and the one I had the 2 hour meeting with.  When I tried to set up the face to face with #1, she kind of was short with me.  Ok, I figured she was busy, but when she emailed back, she was vague.  I emailed and called and never heard back.  I took that as a sign and went with photog 3.  In the end, I think the personality thing won.

When I selected my reception venue, I looked at 2 different places (both owned by the same company).  I was able to interact with all 3 of their special event coordinators and was happy with all 3.  They were good about communicating with me and since I felt comfortable with all 3, I’m not worried if one leaves before my date.

Post # 5
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m envisioning that you’re left with a bad taste in your mouth because you feel like you’re being “rejected”.

However, if you laid out to her during the bargaining session the reason why you’re asking for a discount, and made it clear that if she cannot offer your a substantial discount, you will book other vendors. So when she comes back and “reject” you, you probably won’t feel too bad ‘cuz you were the one setting the terms and she would be the one getting back to you with an answer. Feeling of who’s the chooser/rejectee is all psychological and emotional, IMO. E.g. “I would love to book you, however, I really dislike your requirement of having several appetizer minimums, or your walls and floors look awful, (make up something if you have to) … so as a compromise, it would only be worth it to me if the price is lowered ## %”. As for this particular vendor, just think that at least you’re not the “future sucker” she’s looking for.

Also, don’t think that you need to book vendors asap unless you’re behind on wedding planning schedule (or if you’ve already found the vendor that you’re desperately in love with). For all other vendors, do all the shopping and get all the quotes and just tell them you’re still looking around. Make them aware that there are other vendors out there competing for your business and that you’re not desperate for any particular one of them. Also do research for what the average price is for the type of stuff you’re looking for so you know wuz reasonable price to expect.

Post # 6
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hmmm notice all three of you are talking about photographers.  The most expensive part of the wedding besides food/drinks.


Post # 7
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I suspect the discussion focuses more around photogs b/c with food and drink, you can add something tangible to the discussions!

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