Post # 1
With so many tips and service charges flying around at a wedding it’s a little confusing who really “needs” a tip when it seems like all the vendors have their hand out.
I thought it would be interesting to see how many brides are tipping each specific type of vendor (above and beyond any automatic “service charge” they add to your bill).
If you are working with these types of vendors, please “check” if you will be giving them a cash tip for their service.
Post # 3
I read an etiquette thing once that said if gratuity is already included there is no need to tip extra (unless you really want to, I suppose). Also, for things like a DJ and photographer – if they’re in business for themselves, it’s not necessary to tip. I am “tipping” my hairdresser/make-up artist because it’s a family friend who offered to do it for free. We’ll also be tipping the bartender because his bill is part of our catering bill, so we want to make sure he gets fair compensation for his time.
The other items (florist, wedding planner, ceremony musician, etc we won’t have at our wedding.
Post # 4
You should never tip anyone before seeing the final service/product in action. A vendor can be great during the planning and royally muck up on the day of, in which case, they are not deserving of a tip. There is no reason that a tip has to be given on the spot either. You can send it later with a thank you note to the vendor.
Also, if a vendor owns their business and you feel they went above and beyond for you, you can give them a tip if you feel they deserved it. While people claim it’s bad etiquette to do so, it really isn’t as it is not creating a social awkwardness for anyone. Don’t let anyone bully you into something you don’t feel right doing.
Post # 5
We had a 20 percent service charge added to our food bill, so we did NOT tip extra.
We didn’t have a DJ or videographer, so we only tipped our ceremony musicians, officiant and hair/make-up people.
Our wedding coordinator/photographer owned their own business, and the cake baker and florist just wasn’t necessary.
Post # 6
Good topic to bring up. We’ve been wondering about the same thing. I’m definitely planning on tipping my MUA and Hair dresser, and probably the bartender, other than that I guess it depends how “above and beyond” people go.
Post # 7
Great thread! I think I’m going to not tip if service charge is already included and not if they are in business for themselves unless they go above and beyond what I was expecting. We’ll tip the hair dresser because we are going to the salon and I’m sure we’ll tip the DOC but that’s probably it. We’re feeding some of the vendors anyways!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Our wedding was a pretty inclusive package, so the only separate tips we gave out were to
1. the officiant
2. the photographers
3. the ceremony musician