Post # 1
We’ve been searching for band (music, not ring) for months and finally found one we love. I’d triple confirmed their availability, but right before they were about to send us a contract someone else "got to them first". They had invited both of us to their showcase because "they weren’t sure who would show", even though we both confirmed. I know we didn’t lose any money or anything, and there are probably other bands out there that we’ll love, but I just think it’s so rude of them and am annoyed I wasted so much time researching and going to see them.
Post # 3
Well, that is annoying. However, it’s likely that a large number of people come to see them and don’t hire them – just as we brides "interview" numerous photographers or florists. There was a post the other day about a couple who were actually visiting dozens of venues!! Wedding vendors are used to talking to couple after couple who never come through with an actual contract.
Nobody is really yours until you have at least given them a deposit. When you’re serious about a vendor, don’t wait for them to get a contract to you – drive to wherever they are and sit and wait for it. The day we confirmed availability of our photographer (who was probably the most in-demand of our vendors) I spent the afternoon driving around town to deliver deposit checks and pick up contracts from everybody else. Darling Husband thought I was being a bit OCD – as we had verbal confirmation of availability – but honestly until you have the paper you don’t have the vendor.
Theoretically it would have been nice if they had called you, or honored your verbal, but what would you expect – that if the other couple is in their studio with a check in hand, they would call you first? When they said they were available, they meant that nobody had yet hired them for that date – not that they would reserve it without any concrete indication from you (e.g., a deposit) that you actually intended to hire them. It does suck from your point of view, but the lesson is this – for next time, learn how to quick-draw the check book. If you love the band at the showcase, and they say they are available, get the check in their hands (and the contract in yours) before you walk out the door. Any vendor that is doing an audition or interview should have blank contracts with them. If not, get with them ASAP – later that evening, or the next day – before someone else beats you to it.
Post # 4
Well technically the other girl hasn’t given them a check, but she has a week to get it to them, even though I could drive mine over right now. Her email came in "3 minutes" before mine, both of which were right after the show. I know it’s no one’s fault but my own, and that mindset is starting to get to me. I guess I just expected better communication from people I’m about to pay $6000, and I wouldn’t have to rely on a quick draw of the blackberry.
Post # 5
Maybe you could drive it over anyway? That way you’d be first in line, in case the other girl is late with the check/contract…
Post # 6
$6000 for music? I think they are over priced and you should look elsewhere anyway!
Post # 7
Our first choice band did the same thing! I was mostly disappointed, but definitely annoyed. They referred us to another band who were also rather disorganized during booking. (We did successfully book them, though).