(Closed) Vendor wants me to review him, but I don’t have a good review!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That’s a good question. He needs to know to improve, but maybe the best thing would be to ask him what kind of a review he’s expecting. If it’s good, then tell him “I don’t think I can give you what you want” and leave it at that. If he inquires further, perhaps you’d be doing him a favor if you tell him why in a polite and constructive manner.

Post # 4
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are you able to leave comments? I would say something about how he was amazing when playing but maybe a little difficult to work with logistically. Would you recommend him to another bride? and why? As long as you back stuff up it should be fine. He asked you to review him, be honest, but not harsh.

Post # 5
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well, I don’t think you should give him a great review, if you really don’t feel he deserves it.  You could either post it and face potential anger from him over your mediocre (at best) review, or write up the review and send it to him before you post it.  I guess the choice is up to you, but as a bride looking for a musician for my wedding, I would want to know the truth.  

Does he deserve a heads up?  If you think so, then let him see it before you post it and explain to him why you feel that way.  If you don’t really feel like going out of your way for him (and you have finished business with him!), then post away!  

Post # 6
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, as a ervice to future brides, you should give him an honest review.

Post # 7
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My father always told me to be careful what you ask for, you just might get it.

He asked for a review. As long as you’re honest, and list the good with the bad, I don’t see any harm in it. The wedding is done. If you ask him if you can post a not-so-perfect review, of course he’s not going to want you to do it.

Even eBay has a policy on such things. If someone tries to make you give them a good review when you don’t want to, they call it review extortion.

Post # 8
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Have you talked to him about these frustrations?  I would write an honest review, but I might talk to him first so he has a heads up.

Post # 11
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you weren’t planning on reviewing him in the first place, I would tell him what you plan on writing in the review and ask him if he wants you to publish it. If you WERE planning on writing a review, I’d just write it and not ask his permission first.

Post # 12
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do a pro’s and con’s thing.

Pro’s- blah blah blah blah
Con’s-blah blah blah
Overall-blah blah blah.

If he was great at your wedding focus on that. Then add the problems like the contract and the pricing. “High maintenence” is subjective. What one person thinks as high maintenence another may feel like they are just really organized.

Post # 13
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Just be honest, if you decide to give him a review. Personally, if I had a vendor constantly asking me for a review, it would make me very upset. Vendors shouldn’t badger anyone to get a review. I would probably email him back and tell him about the issues, and let him know that if he wants a review, you will be happy to oblige, but in good conscience, you will be giving him an honest review.

Post # 15
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Negative reviews are just as important as positive ones. If you weren’t happy about it other brides need to know!

Post # 16
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would say take the time to give an honest review.

Maybe email him back telling him about the review you are going to post (perhaps something like “you are a fantastic musician, and what you played for my wedding was wonderful…. but working with you logistically was a bit of a challenge…. “), so he has a little head’s up and also the opportunity to respond with an apology or question for you.

Then post your review so others can see a true representation of what working with him would look like.

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