(Closed) Vendors assuming they're eating in the dining room???

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 47
Member
1832 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
@Overjoyed:  I would not do well at all with a vendor who wanted to be treated like a guest.  With our girls’ weddings we have always had a table in the back for them, given them a proper meal and non-alcoholic beverages.  They have always acted like professionals.  I would not be happy if one of them crossed that professional line and wanted to be treated like a guest.

Post # 48
Member
3462 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

View original reply
@hermom:  yeah it was kind of a mess, but I’m glad I saw it coming and cut losses early. I made a thread about it. He invited a +1. Yes, a whole other person for me to feed. Thankfully, I know this person and she had sense enough to decline and warn me that the bartender was inviting folks to my wedding all willy nilly. Essentially this dude wanted to ride in our guest shuttle, expected to be invited to the rehearsal dinner (although he was not working that event), wanted me to create a special event the day before the wedding just so he could have an opportunity to show off his bartending skills to my out of town guests and hand out business cards and whatnot (and while he didn’t ask to be paid for this, he expected me to provide all the materials). He also constantly made comments about whether I have any cute friends and was telling me that he didn’t need the room I was providing, so he was going to get himself a suite so he could entertain the chick(s) he might pick up at the wedding. He and I know each other through having worked together in the liquor industry, but are not bosom buddies and I was hiring him at about his going rate. He was not a “friendor” but I wasn’t willing to go through the effort of managing his expectations for 6 months running. I hired another colleague who actually lives in my wedding locale and I’m looking forward to working with him. 

Post # 49
Member
1832 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
@Overjoyed:  You dodged a bullet there!  What a jerk!

Post # 50
Member
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

View original reply
@Aelie:  +1. i’ve always seen a “vendor” table.

Post # 51
Member
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t expect to sit with guests. In fact, when I shoot at wedding I’m never truly off duty (which goes for all other wedding photographers) and sure, while I worked in a newspaper office I didn’t expect my employers to feed me. But then I had the sort of options to feed myself that aren’t available or appropriate when shooting weddings.

A sandwich and a bottle of water/cup of tea or coffee is enough – nobody expects a guest meal – but if I discovered that my clients couldn’t accept that it is basic courtesy to offer some refreshments then I wouldn’t work for them in the first place. 

There’s really no need to push the boat out here but you won’t get the best out of any photographer who is expected to put hours of work in without any sort of sustenance. Neither will most clients take it well if your photographer has to leave the venue to go and grab themselves some lunch or wander about eating your sandwiches out of a bag while shooting. But since you don’t intend to go all day without eating, why assume your vendors should? 

The “I’m paying you people thousands of dollars so you can forget about screwing a sandwich out of me” attitude is precisely why some of us are very selective indeed about wedding photography. Far too often you can end up working for clients who haven’t worked out that they are employing a trained and qualified professional. Not a servant.

Post # 52
Member
2615 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

our vendors ( two photographers and dj ) they sat with our guests ( dj was placed at a table near his booth( i dont think i saw him eat though) we had 4 empty tables do to last minute cancelations (40 people) one photographer took the back corner and was making a mini sneak peak book for us that we recieved at the end of the night. and i think the other photographer ate after wards. we also provided lunches for the photographer since they were with us from noon to 1130pm.

The topic ‘Vendors assuming they're eating in the dining room???’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors