(Closed) Vendors complaining about their meals???

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 2
47202 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the crazy part is a vendor posting criticism  on Facebook. Are they out of their mind or just too stupid to realize this could have repercussions on their business?

Post # 3
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

No, you’re not crazy, and I do hope this indiscretion affects their businesses!


Post # 4
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think the difference there is that you’re given time to go get something. Vendors don’t have a “break time” where they can leave the venue. My BFF just got married and her photog was awesome–during her “down times” she was helping the bride pin her dress, pumping drinks from the keg at the bar and generally just being a doll. If I would have seen someone hand her a PB and J, I would have been really angry! They’re doing a lot of work and if you have good vendors, they go above and beyond the call of duty. I think feeding them is only fair.

Post # 5
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s crazy for the dj to complain when a hot meal was never in their contract.. or a meal at all.

It’s one thing if its in their contract and they were given a crappy, lunch meal.

Post # 6
493 posts
Helper bee

They can resolve this whole issue but just putting it in their contract. If they are good at what they do, people will still hire them.

I do some semi-professional singing on the side and one of the groups I work with has an agent that books all of our gigs. If they request to have us at the venue for more than a few hours it is in our contract that we are fed. I don’t think it stipulates what kind of food though. Most of the time they have sandwiches or fruit trays and coffee for us.


Post # 7
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think it’s extremely unkind to have your vendors at your wedding and provide thema crappy bagged meal while they have to watch your “real guests” eat a “real meal.”

Be a gracious host and provide them real food. What is the big deal? Much like tipping, being a nice person generally gets you better service than being a royal b**ch and giving an adult service provider a turkey sandwich and a juice box like a child.

My photographer has a hot meal in her contract– we are only serving apps but I told her to order something off the menu (our reception is at a restaurant) at the end of the reception and we’d cover it. I can’t imagine doing anything else, these are humans, they’re not your servants for the day. Whatever happened to being polite?

If you can’t afford to feed your vendors like you can your regular guests, then you are stretching your budget too far and are quite frankly, being cheap.

Post # 8
2455 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

The vendor should have never complained on FaceBook.  Bad form.

That said, if a bride and groom aren’t willing to provide a legitimate meal for dinner, they better be prepared for the photographer to take off for an hour to find food and eat it.

Post # 9
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m wondering if there are rules about bringing in outside food to venues? If I were a vendor, I would totally just bring myself a killer sandwich from home and eat that rather than gambling on what kind of food I would be offered by the venue. Seems like the safer bet, unless there’s some kind of rule against it.

Post # 10
2847 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Apple_Blossom:  Exactly.  Either provide a good meal or the time for the vendor to eat.  I’d rather just provide the decent meal.

It was bad form to complain on FB though.  Bad for business, actually.  Just change your contract.

Post # 11
1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I just posted this in the photographers eating cake thread, but I didn’t realize “vendor meals” or “bagged meals” were a thing.  I doubt I’m the only person who doesn’t know about this.  If a caterer says they’ll provide vendor meals, I just assume they’re regular meals.  

If a vendor knows this is common and wants a hot meal, it would be better for him or her to tell us specifically.  Most brides aren’t this entrenched in the wedding industry to know what they should specify for their vendors.  In my opinion this is more of a fault on the caterer than the bride.  How are we supposed to know?

Post # 12
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

when we were meeting with our venue to finalize the meals, it was our coordinator who specifically asked if they had a vendor meal, like a hot sandwich or something, to serve. i had never considered it. so we ended up serving chicken sandwiches, and i hope that none of them were unhappy! we did it at the recommendation of two of the people who would be eating it! they specifically said “it’s a working dinner, no one expects a full guest meal.”  i’d be really insulted if i saw any of my vendors complaining on social media over it.

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