(Closed) VENT.

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@dchokiebride3: It’s not dumb at all!!!!  I share your fears about not knowing how long it’s going to take.  We are trying for baby #1 and we’re 33 and 34!  I hope he finds a job asap so you can get started ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I get it. It’s tough to plan things when there is little control or certainty over how/when it’ll happen.

We don’t want another one yet. DS is 7 months and we aren’t planning to start trying for #2 until he’s almost 3 years old. But we got pregnant right away with this one, and I’m worried that if we wait so long to try, we will have trouble getting pregnant and we’ll be even older when he/she’s born and they will e farther apart in age. I am just about to turn 28 and I want to be done having kids by 34, so I just worry about timing.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I TOTALLY know what you’re talking about.  With Addie, we just decided we wanted to have a baby and I got pregnant on, literally, our first try.  I also knew immediately after that I was pregnant (so much that I didn’t even take a pregnancy test until 5 or 6 weeks), so I never even had the TWW.  I never waited, and we never went through the whole TTC process; at least, not like a lot of other people do.  It just happened.

With this one, I started getting baby rabies when Addie was about 9 months old.  My husband didn’t want to start TTC until like September/October, and it was so hard to think about waiting 6+ months to even start, not to mention we didn’t know how long it would take us to get pregnant.  I was so worried this one would take a while, I convinced him we should start in July, instead.  Sure enough, we got pregnant our first month trying, again.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I know the waiting is the hardest part.  It feels like it takes forever, but I’m holding out hope that once your husband gets a job and you start TTC, things will move as quickly for you as they did for us!  Do your best to keep your mind off things, in the meantime.  It’ll happen for you, hopefully really soon!

Post # 6
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643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I know the feeling… it is very frustrating to not know when you will be able to try!

Perhaps if you focus on getting as healthy as possible in the meantime, it will help you in two ways. One, it will hopefully help you conceive faster. And two, it will help you feel like you are being pro-active in the baby process!!

I don’t have much advice, but understand how frustrating it can be!!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Spring:  I am just curious:  my sister also says that she just “knew” when she was pregnant with her son.  How did you know?  Was it a feeling, or symptoms, or what?

Post # 8
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@lilybugg78:  At first, it was just a feeling, but the nausea confirmed it for me, too, maybe at 4 weeks.  My husband knew with both my pregnancies, though.  Both times we had sex, and he said, “Ok, that did it.”  LOL!  He was right twice so far, though, so I guess he must have a sixth sense.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

this makes total sense. we have not even started on our first and i am going insane because not only am i wondering how long it will take or if we will have issues with our first but i am also worried about having our second. i am 34 so the clock is ticking. we are starting in january. was gonna be may and until hubby got a job in our new locale (we move this feb) but since my bloodwork came back with low ovarian reserve we have to get on it. not the awesomest reason or outlook to have but i am trying to be optimistic. i am gonna try CBEFM (which i have already purchased) yoga fro fertility and the conception kit. in additon i am reading up and really trying to get in optimum health whilst i wait. i suggest What to Expect Before youre expecting and Taking Charge Of yoru fertility as good primers. it has gotten me through alot along with preliminary fertility checks.

best of luck! i hope your hubby gets a good job asap!!!

Post # 10
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wombat is barely 3 months and I’m ready to do it again, not that we will right now. My husband just started his PhD, so we can’t afford another baby for some time. We can barely afford Wombat as it is.

Post # 12
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@dchokiebride3:  Thanks!  It sounds like you guys are on a similar timeline, so I’ll keep my fingers crossed for your big announcement early next year!

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