(Closed) VENT

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You need to talk about this with him, and sooner rather than later. Let him know how you are feeling. It sounds to me like you have been hiding this frustration from him, and that isn’t fair to you or him. 

Post # 3
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That would have bothered me too, especially if he knew in advanced that you were cooking. Sounds like you need to be more open with hom about how you feel. I would also be cautious about stepping on his relationship with his family, but also set healthy boundaries. It can be hard. It all depends on your relationship with your SO and living arrangements. 

Post # 4
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Ok first of all… Did he KNOW you were cooking dinner for him? If not, then you can’t be upset with him for not knowing. Him spending time with his parents is a separate issue and you need to address that separately. You definitely need to talk to him but not in an accusatory way. More of that you feel like you guys need to communicate better. You for letting him know when you are cooking, expecting him at a certain time, whatever and you would expect better communication from him BEFORE plans change and would like to increase the time you spend together. I’m sure its a huge transition for both him and his parents knowing you will be the main focus in his life after marriage. Not everyone adjusts right away. Address the concerns separately and work on them together. Keep the communication going at all times. If you make it a personal attack or blaming him, he will only get defensive. 

Post # 5
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You should try to get used to how close he is with his family, or else you might face a lot of disappointment in the future. As far as the ruined dinner goes, I’m sorry that things didn’t work out :(. I would also be really frustrated.

Congrats on your graduation.

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