(Closed) Vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Whitanella: No worries about the typos :-). I personally think you should stick to your guns on the things that are most important to you and compromise when you can. I think it is wonderful you moved the wedding up for your grandmother. I would do the same thing! Hope everything works out well for you.

Post # 5
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Aww I’m sorry. Thankfully your grandma will be there. It’s probably so important for her to manage things because it’s like her last bonding experience with you… like PP said, stick to your guns on the big things- dress, bouquet, venue; and compromise on everything else.

Post # 6
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410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry, it sounds like you are making A LOT of compromises for the sake of your grandma’s happiness. Which is probably exactly what I would do, because ultimately the most important thing is that she be able to be there to celebrate with you. However, it is your wedding, just try to keep that in mind, and maybe  gently remind her that your happiness is important too. Good luck!

Post # 7
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds like for your own sanity, you should look into respite care, at least for a few hours a week. Seriously- do it for yourself AND for your grandma.

Post # 8
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow this is eerily similar to my “almost-situation.” My grandparents aren’t ill, but they are old and don’t look well, so I was thinking of changing my date (and forgot that that affects a whole sh*t ton of other people, including Fiance and my mom) and ended up keeping my date. I think what you’re doing is wonderful but I imagine it’s incredibly hard — I was stressed just thinking of doing it.

I agree with PPs – it’s still your wedding. It’s going to be your and your FI’s memories ofr years to come. Your pictures. I’m not saying ignore her (of course not!) but just keep YOUR vision in mind. Everyone else really needs to back off. While I’m sure they think they’re being “helpful” it sounds like they’re just making this quick planning even worse.

I wish you luck and hope it all turns out well!

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