(Closed) Vent- A bit annoyed

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I would say you shouldn’t care.  If you’re not close with this person, then don’t stress if he doesn’t want to be at the wedding.  I would think your friend would be upset.. I would be PISSED if my husband told me he didn’t want to go to a friend’s wedding with me.  But you really won’t be affected by this, so don’t stress.  Think of it as less money out of your pocket.

Post # 4
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

while it is very kind of you to say that the boyfriends can hang out with you all for the 3 hours prior to the ceremony when you are taking photos, as a guest, i cannot imagine this would be all that much fun.  if he himself is not a good friend of yours, i’d say don’t worry about it.

Post # 6
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Yeah, I think you should let this go.  One of my BMs RSVP’d just for 1 and when I asked why her Fiance wasn’t coming she said that he just felt uncomfortable because he wouldn’t know anyone.  Honestly… I get it.  And that’s totally his choice.  I hardly know him, so it’s not like a good friend was refusing to come to our wedding.  I would hate to think that someone was at my wedding and feeling uncomfortable.  Put yourself in his position and you’ll see that this is not a big deal at all.  

Post # 7
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@KIKI82: meh, I wouldn’t worry about it.  maybe he just doesn’t LIKE weddings?  (a lot of people don’t…)  I’d be more worried about how my friend was handling this news.  if she’s okay with it, let it slide.  otherwise, offer her comfort. 

just my thoughts…

Post # 8
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I would say they are adults, leave it up to them.  If they RSVP’ed saying he would come, intend on him coming and move forward as such.  If they RSVP’ed with only one, obviously he isn’t coming.  I guess I would just ask her to let you know before the deadline of count for the venue so you can plan accordingly.

Post # 10
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my Fiance has only been to a few weddings with me over the years b/c of not knowing the people getting married or only having met them once and honestly, i think sometimes i have more fun without him b/c i don’t have to worry about entertaining him, making sure he isn’t bored/left out…i only miss him during the slow songs…don’t fret about him not wanting to come…you’ll have more fun with the people who you know want to be there!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Ei: i totally agree!  my guy usually opts out of weddings for my friends from high school, and that is fine because it ends up being a massive reunion and i’d worry about him feeling left out or the odd one out and require entertaining. 

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